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my ss has Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) & hits me
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 747662" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Pixie, great explanation of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Its a disorder people dont like to talk about because it is devestating, nobody is sure how to treat it, and it is more comforting to think ODD or ADHD. But I know Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) at its worse and more mediocre. Adopted two kids who had it. Still do.</p><p></p><p>My advice is to make sure your adopted kid is sern by a neuropsychologist AND a psychologist who specializes in treating adopted kids and kids with early bonding breaks and traumatic lives from infancy to age 5. Regular therapy wont do squat. This is an extra layered issue that can cause great harm yet only some in the adoption community understand it. Many psychiatrists dont.</p><p></p><p>Read Nancy Thomas. Read The Hurt Child. Gawd, I hope those names are right. So long ago for me. Also many Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids had birthparents that drank and did drugs so fetal alcohol syndrome can be a part and a neuropsychologist will see those traits. That disorder is organic and affects the brain and again mainstream therapy is not helpful. Our adopted kids have a history we did not create and cant erase through love, even a different DNA. We want to forget that these can be issues sometimes. Children adopted older are most at risk. They have usually been thrown around a lot or neglected and though they may not remember, their developing brain marks this and the child learns not to love or trust anyone but himself. Some Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids harm animals, start fires and pee and poop inappropriately. Some molest unwilling kids. They lack empathy. They love you only when they want something.</p><p></p><p>But outside of the home, where there is no pressure for the dreaded love, they may be charming and hug everyone. It makes the parent think he is nuts and it is his fault. But all this happened before you met your child and the brain is set in its ways.</p><p></p><p>Anyhow....be kind to yourself. Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 747662, member: 1550"] Pixie, great explanation of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Its a disorder people dont like to talk about because it is devestating, nobody is sure how to treat it, and it is more comforting to think ODD or ADHD. But I know Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) at its worse and more mediocre. Adopted two kids who had it. Still do. My advice is to make sure your adopted kid is sern by a neuropsychologist AND a psychologist who specializes in treating adopted kids and kids with early bonding breaks and traumatic lives from infancy to age 5. Regular therapy wont do squat. This is an extra layered issue that can cause great harm yet only some in the adoption community understand it. Many psychiatrists dont. Read Nancy Thomas. Read The Hurt Child. Gawd, I hope those names are right. So long ago for me. Also many Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids had birthparents that drank and did drugs so fetal alcohol syndrome can be a part and a neuropsychologist will see those traits. That disorder is organic and affects the brain and again mainstream therapy is not helpful. Our adopted kids have a history we did not create and cant erase through love, even a different DNA. We want to forget that these can be issues sometimes. Children adopted older are most at risk. They have usually been thrown around a lot or neglected and though they may not remember, their developing brain marks this and the child learns not to love or trust anyone but himself. Some Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids harm animals, start fires and pee and poop inappropriately. Some molest unwilling kids. They lack empathy. They love you only when they want something. But outside of the home, where there is no pressure for the dreaded love, they may be charming and hug everyone. It makes the parent think he is nuts and it is his fault. But all this happened before you met your child and the brain is set in its ways. Anyhow....be kind to yourself. Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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