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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 755743" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Hi. My heart hurts for you.</p><p></p><p>I fear you may be dealing with a meth addict. This causes paranoia and can cause psychosis. I don't really know if a 72 hour psychiatric hold would give you much to go on. As child like as our grown kids can be, we can not be given any medical information without our adult child's consent. Dad sounds as if he is not ready to accept that he can not help his daughter by enabling her choices. That has to come from him but you can certainly take any stance you feel is safest for you. If you feel Daughter is dangerous you can say you will not live with her under any conditions.</p><p></p><p> It sounds as if perhaps it would be safer for you not to confront her. People on drugs can have super strength and she is younger and stronger and drug addicts do not hear what we say as much more than an insult to them. That CAN cause violence.</p><p></p><p> We can choose compassion toward our sick loved one and.ourselves by not engaging with people who could cause harm under the influence. She is not thinking rationally. Dad is so hurt that he is not either. Don't join the insanity and risk harm. Please. Your welfare matters and if we owe them anything it is to not trigger their illness and make them worse. We are sane. We can leave. It is hard at times but it is safe for us and kind to all if we do not get tangled up in the illnesses of others. This is true of both mental illness, untreated, and drug addiction.</p><p></p><p>We have had to do this. Sometimes I hurt deeply but have learned tools in Nar Anon and therapy to let the pain and anger go. Confronting them may feel good for a moment but a fist in the face is not worth getting our inner thoughts out. My daughter is also capable of violence so it has been years since she has been allowed in our home and years since we told her how we felt. She just gets angry when we told her and she scarily plotted to harm. We have only seen her in crowded public places. She does not fight us in public.</p><p></p><p>Dear one, take care of your own well being first. That is my two cents. I am sorry this is part of your life.path. if God is in your life, do lean on Him. It helps!</p><p></p><p>Prayers and hugs to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 755743, member: 23706"] Hi. My heart hurts for you. I fear you may be dealing with a meth addict. This causes paranoia and can cause psychosis. I don't really know if a 72 hour psychiatric hold would give you much to go on. As child like as our grown kids can be, we can not be given any medical information without our adult child's consent. Dad sounds as if he is not ready to accept that he can not help his daughter by enabling her choices. That has to come from him but you can certainly take any stance you feel is safest for you. If you feel Daughter is dangerous you can say you will not live with her under any conditions. It sounds as if perhaps it would be safer for you not to confront her. People on drugs can have super strength and she is younger and stronger and drug addicts do not hear what we say as much more than an insult to them. That CAN cause violence. We can choose compassion toward our sick loved one and.ourselves by not engaging with people who could cause harm under the influence. She is not thinking rationally. Dad is so hurt that he is not either. Don't join the insanity and risk harm. Please. Your welfare matters and if we owe them anything it is to not trigger their illness and make them worse. We are sane. We can leave. It is hard at times but it is safe for us and kind to all if we do not get tangled up in the illnesses of others. This is true of both mental illness, untreated, and drug addiction. We have had to do this. Sometimes I hurt deeply but have learned tools in Nar Anon and therapy to let the pain and anger go. Confronting them may feel good for a moment but a fist in the face is not worth getting our inner thoughts out. My daughter is also capable of violence so it has been years since she has been allowed in our home and years since we told her how we felt. She just gets angry when we told her and she scarily plotted to harm. We have only seen her in crowded public places. She does not fight us in public. Dear one, take care of your own well being first. That is my two cents. I am sorry this is part of your life.path. if God is in your life, do lean on Him. It helps! Prayers and hugs to you. [/QUOTE]
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