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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 216247" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Well when you come to the end of your rope - tie a knot. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /> and since ropes is free for you ? Get to tying sista. </p><p> </p><p>You know what strikes me about your posts? You have a lot of stuff inside. The more I read your posts and get to know you the more I see a person who is struggling and reaching out. THIS IS GOOD. And like I told you before about the lifeboat you need to B12no1...okay? </p><p> </p><p>Here is my suggestion/observation/thought. YOU are the most important person in your world. Bologna about all that others before self. Think of this like those little oxygen masks in the airplanes - you know the drill; put YOURS on before you attempt to put a childs on. </p><p> </p><p>Same with our lives, well being, mental health. Someone asked me one day "HOW in the world do you expect to be the best parent/person you can be if you never take time or care for yourself?" My brilliant answer was - I do take care of me. Then I heard. "When? What do you do for fun? You are an intelligent woman - what are you doing to continue that education and continue to make yourself feel good?" I couldn't answer that. So it was suggested that I start to journal. </p><p> </p><p>My life story is so peppered with incredible things, happenings, events, tragedy, humor and most of my life if I wrote the biography would be science fiction and rival anything Star Trek (live long and prosper) had ever gotten. I mean wow. But I took the advice and began to write my thoughts (I think they call it blogging now) used to call it journaling....and began to get it out on paper. The trick is to write - and use ALL the emotion and feelings you have - and then put it away -go back and read it days later and pretend like it wasnt' YOU writing it and see what advice you would offer yourself. </p><p> </p><p>In the mean time I started therapy because I had a tragic and horriblly abusive marriage. It took me going every week for 1 year JUST to find a comfy place for my brain from my marriage. </p><p> </p><p>So I'm encouraging you as a freind to journal and give therapy a try. Lots of people think when someone suggests this that it's like a scarlet letter or a mark or youre (insert finger twirling around the ear) crazy - and nothing could be further from the truth.....to sit and DO NOTHING - to improve yourself so you CAN be the best person/friend/mom you can IS in my humble opinion crazy. </p><p> </p><p>Otherwise my chickadee - you wouldn't be here. Kapish? </p><p> </p><p>And you have lots to say - so give it a try - and see if it doesnt' give you an outlet for your frustration and memories - and then when you feel comfy - call your county mental health - and give THAT one try - it's on sliding scale.....it can feel good to bounce your ideas off a psychiatrist - omg when I first went I talked nearly every week for a solid hour...no kidding <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /> - I know I'm such a closed mouth person....hard to belive huh? </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>I never know whether to say 'hang in there" to you as your name is Rope...</p><p> </p><p>Nonetheless - </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 216247, member: 4964"] Well when you come to the end of your rope - tie a knot. :raspberry-tounge: and since ropes is free for you ? Get to tying sista. You know what strikes me about your posts? You have a lot of stuff inside. The more I read your posts and get to know you the more I see a person who is struggling and reaching out. THIS IS GOOD. And like I told you before about the lifeboat you need to B12no1...okay? Here is my suggestion/observation/thought. YOU are the most important person in your world. Bologna about all that others before self. Think of this like those little oxygen masks in the airplanes - you know the drill; put YOURS on before you attempt to put a childs on. Same with our lives, well being, mental health. Someone asked me one day "HOW in the world do you expect to be the best parent/person you can be if you never take time or care for yourself?" My brilliant answer was - I do take care of me. Then I heard. "When? What do you do for fun? You are an intelligent woman - what are you doing to continue that education and continue to make yourself feel good?" I couldn't answer that. So it was suggested that I start to journal. My life story is so peppered with incredible things, happenings, events, tragedy, humor and most of my life if I wrote the biography would be science fiction and rival anything Star Trek (live long and prosper) had ever gotten. I mean wow. But I took the advice and began to write my thoughts (I think they call it blogging now) used to call it journaling....and began to get it out on paper. The trick is to write - and use ALL the emotion and feelings you have - and then put it away -go back and read it days later and pretend like it wasnt' YOU writing it and see what advice you would offer yourself. In the mean time I started therapy because I had a tragic and horriblly abusive marriage. It took me going every week for 1 year JUST to find a comfy place for my brain from my marriage. So I'm encouraging you as a freind to journal and give therapy a try. Lots of people think when someone suggests this that it's like a scarlet letter or a mark or youre (insert finger twirling around the ear) crazy - and nothing could be further from the truth.....to sit and DO NOTHING - to improve yourself so you CAN be the best person/friend/mom you can IS in my humble opinion crazy. Otherwise my chickadee - you wouldn't be here. Kapish? And you have lots to say - so give it a try - and see if it doesnt' give you an outlet for your frustration and memories - and then when you feel comfy - call your county mental health - and give THAT one try - it's on sliding scale.....it can feel good to bounce your ideas off a psychiatrist - omg when I first went I talked nearly every week for a solid hour...no kidding :raspberry-tounge: - I know I'm such a closed mouth person....hard to belive huh? Hugs I never know whether to say 'hang in there" to you as your name is Rope... Nonetheless - Hugs [/QUOTE]
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