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My teen is sullen and disgusted with me...
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 216251" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>When M was about 7 years old, I was coming out of a terribly abusive situation that had me depressed for a number of years. M was a depressed kid who knew how to live with a depressed mom. The family therapist told us that even though I had worked very hard to remove myself from the abusive situation, and to be a happy person, this was my decision, and not M's. Not only did M not know how to be happy on his own, he wasn't ready to give up what had been such an integral part of his life virtually since before his birth. And he wasn't ready to deal with me as anything other than a sad and angry victim. It <em>explained</em> M's behaviors, but sad to say it didn't change them. It was and is my job to live a happy and healthy life for myself and my family. All in all, I think he was right. I'm just sad to say that M didn't want to change for a very long time. I still don't know if he does, but I am learning.</p><p></p><p>Totally off the subject here, on one of your other posts you mentioned something along the lines of "in my country, we..." I wanted to ask if you are in the United States or if you are elsewhere in the world? Not that it matters, but I'm just now remembering to ask.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 216251, member: 99"] When M was about 7 years old, I was coming out of a terribly abusive situation that had me depressed for a number of years. M was a depressed kid who knew how to live with a depressed mom. The family therapist told us that even though I had worked very hard to remove myself from the abusive situation, and to be a happy person, this was my decision, and not M's. Not only did M not know how to be happy on his own, he wasn't ready to give up what had been such an integral part of his life virtually since before his birth. And he wasn't ready to deal with me as anything other than a sad and angry victim. It [I]explained[/I] M's behaviors, but sad to say it didn't change them. It was and is my job to live a happy and healthy life for myself and my family. All in all, I think he was right. I'm just sad to say that M didn't want to change for a very long time. I still don't know if he does, but I am learning. Totally off the subject here, on one of your other posts you mentioned something along the lines of "in my country, we..." I wanted to ask if you are in the United States or if you are elsewhere in the world? Not that it matters, but I'm just now remembering to ask. [/QUOTE]
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