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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 255536" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thank you! DDD, those are pretty much my goals- I need to do a little each day to try to catch up with some over-due things. Getting the dogs groomed, for one. I guess it must take me longer than many to adjust to things- I don't think I will be finished crying within a week. LOL! </p><p></p><p>He's in others' hands now and I will try to support whatever their methods are. I should know in a few weeks the range of "length of stay" (LOS) to expect. Apparently, they call the parents in and review things. It just isn't clear to me yet if they call them in early on to get social/family history, then call them in again after the evaluation is complete and the (LOS) and place he's going is determined. Anyway, they do notify the parents once this is determined. </p><p></p><p>It will help for me to know if they end up with something closer to 1 year or 3 years. They can do either. The exact amount of time will depend on how he does there. My willingness to do whatever they want upon his release will play into whether he goes to a group home, my home, or turned over to dss for family placement afterwards. </p><p></p><p>I can already say that I will not allow him to come home if the people in charge are convinced that I am his whole problem again. difficult child needs to be under the guardianship of someone they (his authorities in the system) trust, or no one will have a minute's peace. I've been doing this for 2 years under those circumstances and, in my humble opinion, it completely destroyed us.</p><p></p><p>My guess is that he'll be in closer to 3 years (it says this is the max for a kid committed for an undetermined amoubnt of time) and difficult child will be 17 yo so, I think any idea of me being a part of any future raising him or being emotionally close to him as a parent is over. Yes, I already know, maybe he'll be better off. Apparently, that's what the system has already determined.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 255536, member: 3699"] Thank you! DDD, those are pretty much my goals- I need to do a little each day to try to catch up with some over-due things. Getting the dogs groomed, for one. I guess it must take me longer than many to adjust to things- I don't think I will be finished crying within a week. LOL! He's in others' hands now and I will try to support whatever their methods are. I should know in a few weeks the range of "length of stay" (LOS) to expect. Apparently, they call the parents in and review things. It just isn't clear to me yet if they call them in early on to get social/family history, then call them in again after the evaluation is complete and the (LOS) and place he's going is determined. Anyway, they do notify the parents once this is determined. It will help for me to know if they end up with something closer to 1 year or 3 years. They can do either. The exact amount of time will depend on how he does there. My willingness to do whatever they want upon his release will play into whether he goes to a group home, my home, or turned over to dss for family placement afterwards. I can already say that I will not allow him to come home if the people in charge are convinced that I am his whole problem again. difficult child needs to be under the guardianship of someone they (his authorities in the system) trust, or no one will have a minute's peace. I've been doing this for 2 years under those circumstances and, in my humble opinion, it completely destroyed us. My guess is that he'll be in closer to 3 years (it says this is the max for a kid committed for an undetermined amoubnt of time) and difficult child will be 17 yo so, I think any idea of me being a part of any future raising him or being emotionally close to him as a parent is over. Yes, I already know, maybe he'll be better off. Apparently, that's what the system has already determined. [/QUOTE]
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