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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 666759" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>For this little longer time Copa, until we are firmly seated in ourselves enough to identify and respond to inappropriate behaviors from our sisters, it is best for us if we do not remind them we exist.</p><p></p><p>It is best Copa and Serenity, for us.</p><p></p><p>I feel wrong to think the things I think about my mom and my sister, let alone post them. That's why I do post them. To keep myself honest and not pretend I am better than I am, or kinder than I am, or brighter, or a better mom or whatever. I really do want to be myself, right strong in the middle of myself.</p><p></p><p>The quote:</p><p></p><p><em>"...and to lose its bravery perhaps hampers some other bravery of the spirit; to lose even one felicity is to have been robbed of more than we have a right to spare."</em></p><p></p><p><em>Charles Williams</em></p><p><em>Descent Into Hell</em></p><p></p><p>And here is us, Neitzsche's love within us from the beginning:</p><p></p><p><em>Once, my fancy was soothed with dreams of virtue, of fame, and of enjoyment. Once I falsely hoped to meet with beings who, pardoning my outward form, would love me for the excellent qualities I was capable of unfolding.</em></p><p></p><p><em>Mary Shelley</em></p><p><em>Frankenstein</em></p><p></p><p>That is how it is for us in trying to relate to toxic family systems. Everyone can only afford to see everyone else as they were, and never, ever, as we all might become.</p><p></p><p>I don't know why.</p><p></p><p>But I for sure know that one of the people in a toxic relationship cannot believe all of us into better. Think about it. My sister, and the condo. My sister, and going to dinner. My sister, and going to visit.</p><p></p><p>My sister and what she did to my daughter, and how she had to see her, to do that.</p><p></p><p>It blows me right out of the water; that is who my sister is. Maybe I am claiming some moral high ground here in wanting family. Maybe, I don't want them, either.</p><p></p><p>Good.</p><p></p><p>I hope that's true.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 666759, member: 17461"] For this little longer time Copa, until we are firmly seated in ourselves enough to identify and respond to inappropriate behaviors from our sisters, it is best for us if we do not remind them we exist. It is best Copa and Serenity, for us. I feel wrong to think the things I think about my mom and my sister, let alone post them. That's why I do post them. To keep myself honest and not pretend I am better than I am, or kinder than I am, or brighter, or a better mom or whatever. I really do want to be myself, right strong in the middle of myself. The quote: [I]"...and to lose its bravery perhaps hampers some other bravery of the spirit; to lose even one felicity is to have been robbed of more than we have a right to spare."[/I] [I]Charles Williams Descent Into Hell[/I] And here is us, Neitzsche's love within us from the beginning: [I]Once, my fancy was soothed with dreams of virtue, of fame, and of enjoyment. Once I falsely hoped to meet with beings who, pardoning my outward form, would love me for the excellent qualities I was capable of unfolding.[/I] [I]Mary Shelley Frankenstein[/I] That is how it is for us in trying to relate to toxic family systems. Everyone can only afford to see everyone else as they were, and never, ever, as we all might become. I don't know why. But I for sure know that one of the people in a toxic relationship cannot believe all of us into better. Think about it. My sister, and the condo. My sister, and going to dinner. My sister, and going to visit. My sister and what she did to my daughter, and how she had to see her, to do that. It blows me right out of the water; that is who my sister is. Maybe I am claiming some moral high ground here in wanting family. Maybe, I don't want them, either. Good. I hope that's true. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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