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<blockquote data-quote="On_Call" data-source="post: 12726" data-attributes="member: 3211"><p>Wendy,</p><p></p><p>We have different times of the year that our difficult child seems to have it rougher, too. He seems to be every 3 months - almost 'quarterly' - lol. It's not funny, I know, but I try to keep a sense of humor about it for fear that I'll lose it, as well. Seriously, we know that difficult child is always unstable around his birthday, which is at the end of February. Last year, I could be found crying over the sink in my dark kitchen during difficult child's family birthday get-together. He was opening gifts and was completely unstable - he was being over the top one minute and angry at someone the next minute for giving him a birthday card that he found to be insulting and not funny. Each year I brace myself.</p><p></p><p>Our difficult child hits himself in the jaw and/or head as part of his rages, too. When he begins to wind down, he flips to a self-hating mode and begins to hit himself in the head, legs, arms, all while verbally berating himself. I hate it. He has just started taking his lips and twisting them during the rages. I think at that point he just wants to either hurt himself or is looking for some sort of release from the anger. I don't know.</p><p></p><p>Our difficult child is 5+ feet tall and weighs a bit more than 100 pounds, so I also am not able to handle him physically anymore when he is unstable, angry and out of control. I also have the fear that when husband assists me - he is 6+ feet tall and 260 pounds - that it instills the wrong idea in difficult child, but sometimes the necessity of defusing the episode without difficult child hurting himself or someone else outweights that fear that I have.</p><p></p><p>We are in the middle of dealing with a very similar situation as yours right now. It is so tiring and frustrating. I know. It seems that everything you do gets the same result. Our difficult child had a meltdown at collaborative day this week and I had to go pick him up. By the time I called, he had been raging for 45 mintues and it takes me 45 minutes to get there, so by the time I did arrive, he had begun to calm - we met with the counselor and came home. The next morning I woke with the reality that it could have been 5 years ago - the rage was the same, the meltdown was the same, the decompression was the same, etc. It is as if all of the medications, therapy, changes we've made with educational settings and at home have made no difference. I had a real feel sorry for Jamie day. </p><p></p><p>We have a new psychiatrist who is trying new things, so hopefully our future will still have the positive outcome I dream about. </p><p></p><p>I know it is discouraging, but we keep going because we love them and we still have hope that we will all get through this!</p><p></p><p>Keep your head up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="On_Call, post: 12726, member: 3211"] Wendy, We have different times of the year that our difficult child seems to have it rougher, too. He seems to be every 3 months - almost 'quarterly' - lol. It's not funny, I know, but I try to keep a sense of humor about it for fear that I'll lose it, as well. Seriously, we know that difficult child is always unstable around his birthday, which is at the end of February. Last year, I could be found crying over the sink in my dark kitchen during difficult child's family birthday get-together. He was opening gifts and was completely unstable - he was being over the top one minute and angry at someone the next minute for giving him a birthday card that he found to be insulting and not funny. Each year I brace myself. Our difficult child hits himself in the jaw and/or head as part of his rages, too. When he begins to wind down, he flips to a self-hating mode and begins to hit himself in the head, legs, arms, all while verbally berating himself. I hate it. He has just started taking his lips and twisting them during the rages. I think at that point he just wants to either hurt himself or is looking for some sort of release from the anger. I don't know. Our difficult child is 5+ feet tall and weighs a bit more than 100 pounds, so I also am not able to handle him physically anymore when he is unstable, angry and out of control. I also have the fear that when husband assists me - he is 6+ feet tall and 260 pounds - that it instills the wrong idea in difficult child, but sometimes the necessity of defusing the episode without difficult child hurting himself or someone else outweights that fear that I have. We are in the middle of dealing with a very similar situation as yours right now. It is so tiring and frustrating. I know. It seems that everything you do gets the same result. Our difficult child had a meltdown at collaborative day this week and I had to go pick him up. By the time I called, he had been raging for 45 mintues and it takes me 45 minutes to get there, so by the time I did arrive, he had begun to calm - we met with the counselor and came home. The next morning I woke with the reality that it could have been 5 years ago - the rage was the same, the meltdown was the same, the decompression was the same, etc. It is as if all of the medications, therapy, changes we've made with educational settings and at home have made no difference. I had a real feel sorry for Jamie day. We have a new psychiatrist who is trying new things, so hopefully our future will still have the positive outcome I dream about. I know it is discouraging, but we keep going because we love them and we still have hope that we will all get through this! Keep your head up. [/QUOTE]
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