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Need advice about kicking 18 year old out of our house, Help!
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 760153" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I copied this quote before I realized it was 10 years old!! Longer than I have been here. I copied it because it really expresses the kernel of truth for most of us. We can't bear living with them or near them--because of how they act and how they live. Yet we feel we can't handle that bad things happen to them, when we kick them out. I have been living this dream for many years. Sometimes, there is no right thing to do, if you define "right" as "that which works." Because you see, "that which works" by our definition is usually what protects them and protects them. And there is seldom a course of action that in the short run does both. In my experience. That because people need to experience consequences in order to learn and in order to have the motivation to change. That goes for both parents and children. I am beginning to see that I need consequences too. I am seeing that my suffering is motivation for me to change. By that I mean spiritual change.</p><p></p><p>Dear Austin5 ForeverSpring has not posted here in many years. I second MsLulu's suggestion that you post your own, new thread--and I will look for it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 760153, member: 18958"] I copied this quote before I realized it was 10 years old!! Longer than I have been here. I copied it because it really expresses the kernel of truth for most of us. We can't bear living with them or near them--because of how they act and how they live. Yet we feel we can't handle that bad things happen to them, when we kick them out. I have been living this dream for many years. Sometimes, there is no right thing to do, if you define "right" as "that which works." Because you see, "that which works" by our definition is usually what protects them and protects them. And there is seldom a course of action that in the short run does both. In my experience. That because people need to experience consequences in order to learn and in order to have the motivation to change. That goes for both parents and children. I am beginning to see that I need consequences too. I am seeing that my suffering is motivation for me to change. By that I mean spiritual change. Dear Austin5 ForeverSpring has not posted here in many years. I second MsLulu's suggestion that you post your own, new thread--and I will look for it. [/QUOTE]
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