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Need advice: "can I just smoke a little?"
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<blockquote data-quote="Zardo" data-source="post: 547920" data-attributes="member: 12490"><p>Hi Enzo - I must have missed this when you first posted this, but I think this is a great topic and want to share my view. As you know, our difficult children are the same age and have similar stories. We too were faced with this and I assume as high school moves on, we will continue to be. When my difficult child first came home from his boarding school, we caught him using in the middle of the week, in the morning, at home alone. He said he no longer has a problem and ws just planning occasional use. We took a hard line - NO DRUGS IN THIS HOME. We then told him that since he broke the house rule, back to IOP. In hind site, it was a blessing because spending the summer with the IOP group was a life saver for him and us. I don't believe he was ready to "go it alone" as he claimed to be. With him in IOP, the summer went fairly smoothly. Do I expect the he will never smoke again, probably not, but if he does and we catch him, we will remind him of the house rule and react with an appropriate consequence. If we suspect regular use, it will be back to IOP; if we suspect that it's more "social" use, we would probably do something like grounding/no driving for a period of time. We will never back off that message.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zardo, post: 547920, member: 12490"] Hi Enzo - I must have missed this when you first posted this, but I think this is a great topic and want to share my view. As you know, our difficult children are the same age and have similar stories. We too were faced with this and I assume as high school moves on, we will continue to be. When my difficult child first came home from his boarding school, we caught him using in the middle of the week, in the morning, at home alone. He said he no longer has a problem and ws just planning occasional use. We took a hard line - NO DRUGS IN THIS HOME. We then told him that since he broke the house rule, back to IOP. In hind site, it was a blessing because spending the summer with the IOP group was a life saver for him and us. I don't believe he was ready to "go it alone" as he claimed to be. With him in IOP, the summer went fairly smoothly. Do I expect the he will never smoke again, probably not, but if he does and we catch him, we will remind him of the house rule and react with an appropriate consequence. If we suspect regular use, it will be back to IOP; if we suspect that it's more "social" use, we would probably do something like grounding/no driving for a period of time. We will never back off that message. [/QUOTE]
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