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NEED ADVICE talked to difficult child's PO today!
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 13673" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>[ QUOTE ]</p><p>"I'd like to remind you that Ant spent - what was it, Janet - two years in jail before he came home, and that was his choice."</p><p></p><p>It was not his choice. it was a sentence imposed that he came home to face due to three underage DUI's. ...ant's problem was multiple law evasions, not paying his fines and not showing for hearings after the initial charges.</p><p></p><p></p><p>[/ QUOTE ]</p><p></p><p>Janet, it was his choices that got him where he was. No one else made those choices for him, and they weren't the things that you would have chosen for him if you could. But you couldn't.</p><p></p><p>[ QUOTE ]</p><p>I bailed him out one time only...</p><p></p><p>[/ QUOTE ]</p><p></p><p>I guess I didn't really mean "bail" in the literal sense. I mean how many times you opened your door to him in the middle of the night or went to pick him up when he got into trouble.</p><p></p><p>[ QUOTE ]</p><p>"society" is a myth.</p><p></p><p>[/ QUOTE ]</p><p></p><p>Agreed. Until that one time when someone who has the authority to say that they represent society gets you on their radar and decides they're going to come after you. Then society is real.</p><p></p><p>[ QUOTE ]</p><p>if I did not think ant was truly contrite, I would not take him in.</p><p></p><p>[/ QUOTE ] </p><p></p><p>And I think that is what was so important for Ant's continued recovery. You had to know for yourself that Ant meant what he said. I know that you would be strong enough to call him on it if he stepped out of line, and it would be the right thing to do for everyone. Not an easy thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 13673, member: 99"] [ QUOTE ] "I'd like to remind you that Ant spent - what was it, Janet - two years in jail before he came home, and that was his choice." It was not his choice. it was a sentence imposed that he came home to face due to three underage DUI's. ...ant's problem was multiple law evasions, not paying his fines and not showing for hearings after the initial charges. [/ QUOTE ] Janet, it was his choices that got him where he was. No one else made those choices for him, and they weren't the things that you would have chosen for him if you could. But you couldn't. [ QUOTE ] I bailed him out one time only... [/ QUOTE ] I guess I didn't really mean "bail" in the literal sense. I mean how many times you opened your door to him in the middle of the night or went to pick him up when he got into trouble. [ QUOTE ] "society" is a myth. [/ QUOTE ] Agreed. Until that one time when someone who has the authority to say that they represent society gets you on their radar and decides they're going to come after you. Then society is real. [ QUOTE ] if I did not think ant was truly contrite, I would not take him in. [/ QUOTE ] And I think that is what was so important for Ant's continued recovery. You had to know for yourself that Ant meant what he said. I know that you would be strong enough to call him on it if he stepped out of line, and it would be the right thing to do for everyone. Not an easy thing. [/QUOTE]
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