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NEED ADVICE talked to difficult child's PO today!
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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 13684" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>Witz, I don't give much thought to my son's PO. For me she is a source of information and a factor only in that she has some control over my son's destiny. What you see as a set up by her I like to think of as a possible opportunity to help my son. You are right in saying that I would not have asked for advice if I was totally comfortable with bringing my son home. My discomfort lies in the unknown factor which is his readiness to accept help. He was thrown out of the program at the prison not because he wasn't working it but because he got into a fight with another inmate. </p><p></p><p> I think sometimes we have to make sure every question is asked before we make a decision. so your questions are very valuable to me. We may not know the answer to all the questions but at least by having them asked we are aware of possible issues. </p><p></p><p>Alan, I believe everyone deserves a second chance but sometimes that chance cannot come from the people closest to them. It is not an easy thing for a parent to come to that realization. I do not yet know if I am at that point. I do like the idea of a boarder but as I mentioned I do not know anyone that would be good for that role. Perhaps someone will come along in the future. We can pray for that.</p><p></p><p>TM, Thank you </p><p></p><p>Janet, I think my difficult child would react alot like your son if he was away in a city far from his family. He would be lonly and he would be befriending anyone and everyone.</p><p>He has no descression when it comes to people never has. You are absolutely correct, nothing is set in stone. i can change my mind if it isn't working out. </p><p></p><p>Briefly, The plusses of difficult child being home are that he would be monitored closely. He would not be wasting our money. He would have to meet our requirements or risk being put out. The minuses are that I would have to secure my possessions. I would have to give up more of my time and privacy. If he acts out I will once again be subjected to the scrutiny of my neighbors. I would be aware of most of his behaviors. I would have to keep my guard up I would ultimately be the one who would have to blow the whistle on him if he reverts. There are more but those are some of the biggies.</p><p></p><p>Karen, I too am glad you are not in my shoes. They aint big enough for both of us :rofl: No really I would not wish this part of my life on my worst enemy let alone a friend like you. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 13684, member: 2315"] Witz, I don't give much thought to my son's PO. For me she is a source of information and a factor only in that she has some control over my son's destiny. What you see as a set up by her I like to think of as a possible opportunity to help my son. You are right in saying that I would not have asked for advice if I was totally comfortable with bringing my son home. My discomfort lies in the unknown factor which is his readiness to accept help. He was thrown out of the program at the prison not because he wasn't working it but because he got into a fight with another inmate. I think sometimes we have to make sure every question is asked before we make a decision. so your questions are very valuable to me. We may not know the answer to all the questions but at least by having them asked we are aware of possible issues. Alan, I believe everyone deserves a second chance but sometimes that chance cannot come from the people closest to them. It is not an easy thing for a parent to come to that realization. I do not yet know if I am at that point. I do like the idea of a boarder but as I mentioned I do not know anyone that would be good for that role. Perhaps someone will come along in the future. We can pray for that. TM, Thank you Janet, I think my difficult child would react alot like your son if he was away in a city far from his family. He would be lonly and he would be befriending anyone and everyone. He has no descression when it comes to people never has. You are absolutely correct, nothing is set in stone. i can change my mind if it isn't working out. Briefly, The plusses of difficult child being home are that he would be monitored closely. He would not be wasting our money. He would have to meet our requirements or risk being put out. The minuses are that I would have to secure my possessions. I would have to give up more of my time and privacy. If he acts out I will once again be subjected to the scrutiny of my neighbors. I would be aware of most of his behaviors. I would have to keep my guard up I would ultimately be the one who would have to blow the whistle on him if he reverts. There are more but those are some of the biggies. Karen, I too am glad you are not in my shoes. They aint big enough for both of us [img]:rofl:[/img] No really I would not wish this part of my life on my worst enemy let alone a friend like you. -RM [/QUOTE]
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