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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 381159" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>Honestly, given the history, I would not be inclined to let her live with you again, unless you think she is likely to abide by a written lease/contract with you. One that includes rules like no drugs, mandatory school attendance, curfews, respectful behavior, etc. It doesn't sound like she's likely to abide by that, however, it sounds like she's not even close to being ready to change her behavior. </p><p></p><p>If she's got a tentative place to stay, let her follow through on that. I would provide her with a list of resources, and perhaps decide what you and your husband will and will not do to help her (i.e., help with groceries, buy her a bus pass, etc.). Many of our difficult children have a way of landing on their feet in times like this, even though we have visions of homelessness and sleepping on the streets, honestly, they can be darn ersourceful when push comes to shove. Remember she has chosen this path through her own behavior and treatment of others, and these are natural consequences. </p><p></p><p> Hard as it is, do your best to not think about what other people think of you ... they are only being told one side of the story and have NOT been in your shoes, so they have no idea what you've truly dealt with.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 381159, member: 1157"] Honestly, given the history, I would not be inclined to let her live with you again, unless you think she is likely to abide by a written lease/contract with you. One that includes rules like no drugs, mandatory school attendance, curfews, respectful behavior, etc. It doesn't sound like she's likely to abide by that, however, it sounds like she's not even close to being ready to change her behavior. If she's got a tentative place to stay, let her follow through on that. I would provide her with a list of resources, and perhaps decide what you and your husband will and will not do to help her (i.e., help with groceries, buy her a bus pass, etc.). Many of our difficult children have a way of landing on their feet in times like this, even though we have visions of homelessness and sleepping on the streets, honestly, they can be darn ersourceful when push comes to shove. Remember she has chosen this path through her own behavior and treatment of others, and these are natural consequences. Hard as it is, do your best to not think about what other people think of you ... they are only being told one side of the story and have NOT been in your shoes, so they have no idea what you've truly dealt with. [/QUOTE]
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