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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 381178" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Suggestion?</p><p></p><p>Just Say NO!!!!</p><p></p><p>Seriously. Given her history you already know she will not work to improve herself. 18 will only be scarey as long as she's not living with parents and has to take sole responsibility for her actions. </p><p></p><p>She doesn't want to change. She simply wants a place to live.</p><p></p><p>If you give her that place to live she is going to cause 10 times the amount of hades as ever because guess what? She's 18 and YOU can't tell her what to do anymore. And you'll be miserable and still nothing will have changed.</p><p></p><p>Her actions and behavior got her into this. Let it be up to her to either fix it or not. Because as long as someone is rescuing her, she has no reason to even want to change.</p><p></p><p>So? Your answer for when she asks you to come and stay? "Uh remember when you had both us and bio Mom charged with abandonment? Uh, no don't think so sweetheart." </p><p></p><p>You've spent years trying to reach her, get her treatment, and help her. Once that magic 18th birthday happens..........from then on it's ALL up to her. You'll have to trust in your parenting and hope that at some point it will finally "click" for her and she'll turn around.</p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 381178, member: 84"] Suggestion? Just Say NO!!!! Seriously. Given her history you already know she will not work to improve herself. 18 will only be scarey as long as she's not living with parents and has to take sole responsibility for her actions. She doesn't want to change. She simply wants a place to live. If you give her that place to live she is going to cause 10 times the amount of hades as ever because guess what? She's 18 and YOU can't tell her what to do anymore. And you'll be miserable and still nothing will have changed. Her actions and behavior got her into this. Let it be up to her to either fix it or not. Because as long as someone is rescuing her, she has no reason to even want to change. So? Your answer for when she asks you to come and stay? "Uh remember when you had both us and bio Mom charged with abandonment? Uh, no don't think so sweetheart." You've spent years trying to reach her, get her treatment, and help her. Once that magic 18th birthday happens..........from then on it's ALL up to her. You'll have to trust in your parenting and hope that at some point it will finally "click" for her and she'll turn around. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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