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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 153457" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>The school said he didn't qualify, but this was based on their knowledge of diagnosis at that point. That has now changed.</p><p></p><p>I'd be letting them know NOW about the diagnosis, but make it clear you haven't got the report yet. Let them know you're giving them a heads up, they will appreciate it.</p><p></p><p>Two possibilities once they know the diagnosis - they may try to weasel out of meeting his needs (because it could be expensive) or they could jump on board and bend over backwards to help. </p><p>The sooner you know which it is, the sooner you will know where to stand.</p><p></p><p>If the school tries to abdicate responsibility, i think that will put them on shaky legal ground. However, a lot of schools may not know this; other schools may know this but hope you do not. Also, there is a natural tendency for all people but especially institutions, to fight change. I have my own pet theory, that institutions and administrations are themselves autistic - they don't cope with change, they need to feel they are in control, they are often very socially inappropriate and have major problems with efficient and clear communication. And they don't learn to change very easily either. They keep saying the same thing over and over, as if it reassures them.</p><p></p><p>But underneath it all, they are basically good, honest people. You need to work with them, to "go with the flow", to get them to do what you want.</p><p></p><p>I'd be working with them at least to begin with. Give them a chance to do the right thing. But in the meantime, acquaint yourself with your rights and the way to keep safe.</p><p></p><p>Your son has a right to a fair education. Because of his disability, he has more trouble getting access to a good education and it is up to the school to put strategies in place to level the playing field for him. Don't feel you have to go cap in hand - they aren't helping your son just to be nice, but because it is their duty and your son's right. </p><p></p><p>Hold that thought.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 153457, member: 1991"] The school said he didn't qualify, but this was based on their knowledge of diagnosis at that point. That has now changed. I'd be letting them know NOW about the diagnosis, but make it clear you haven't got the report yet. Let them know you're giving them a heads up, they will appreciate it. Two possibilities once they know the diagnosis - they may try to weasel out of meeting his needs (because it could be expensive) or they could jump on board and bend over backwards to help. The sooner you know which it is, the sooner you will know where to stand. If the school tries to abdicate responsibility, i think that will put them on shaky legal ground. However, a lot of schools may not know this; other schools may know this but hope you do not. Also, there is a natural tendency for all people but especially institutions, to fight change. I have my own pet theory, that institutions and administrations are themselves autistic - they don't cope with change, they need to feel they are in control, they are often very socially inappropriate and have major problems with efficient and clear communication. And they don't learn to change very easily either. They keep saying the same thing over and over, as if it reassures them. But underneath it all, they are basically good, honest people. You need to work with them, to "go with the flow", to get them to do what you want. I'd be working with them at least to begin with. Give them a chance to do the right thing. But in the meantime, acquaint yourself with your rights and the way to keep safe. Your son has a right to a fair education. Because of his disability, he has more trouble getting access to a good education and it is up to the school to put strategies in place to level the playing field for him. Don't feel you have to go cap in hand - they aren't helping your son just to be nice, but because it is their duty and your son's right. Hold that thought. Marg [/QUOTE]
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