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<blockquote data-quote="Dazed n Confused" data-source="post: 344338" data-attributes="member: 9086"><p>My son finished his first semester in 9th grade at home with us. By January he was having rages, took him to his Dr. who told us it was a "family" problem and for us to work it out. My parents stepped in and had him move in with them. He finished the 2nd semester of 9th grade living with them. He wanted to move home and lived with us while attending 10th grade.</p><p> </p><p>The beginning of 10th grade was fine with a few blow ups and it rapidly increased to where he was out of control. During this time he was seeing a psychiatric. and counselor, both thought it was anxiety and depression. My husband and I kept insisting there was more going on. He finally got so out of control that my mom picked him up the last day of 10th grade and he moved in with them. </p><p> </p><p>He started his 11th grade year living with them, completed the 1st semester, went 1 day of the 2nd semester and then didn't go for 6 days. Thats when my mom called and said she needed help with him. I think she truly thought it was "us" as parents and he really just had anxiety. Well the honeymoon was over that morning. My husband went over (3hr. drive) and got my son going back to school, he went 2 days. We thought everything was fine and my husband came home. While my husband was there, he took him to his counselor and said here is what is going on. She says wow I didn't realize it was this bad. My husband asked if she requested his records from when he lived with us, she didn't really want to admit that NO she didn't. She put my difficult child on Wellbutrin and said this was more than she could handle and set up an appointment. for him to see someone else once a week, she would still see him once a month. By the time my husband got home, she had faxed the medical releases to get his info.</p><p> </p><p>The next morning my son did not go to school, that was a friday. Monday came he didn't go to school. Then Tues, he refused to go and my mom called me, while on the phone he was in one of his "outbursts", I had her put it on speaker phone and I told him if he didn't start going to school and behaving he was going to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC), Boarding School Something. He flipped and then he had the emotional breakdown sobbing, etc. He wrote my mom a note appologizing saying he would go to school, behave etc. Well Wed. came and he refused to go. That night at 1030pm I get a phone call from him, screaming to leave him the F@#! alone, stay out of his life, he hated me, wish I would die. etc. I said to him, where are your grandparents, at this point I was worried about them. My husband found my cell phone and I called my moms cell phone, I muted our home phone while he was screaming and I asked her if she knew he had called. She said what, he went to bed, then she could hear him escalating. Long story short, when he figured out she was on the phone, he took it broke it, I called the cops. They arrived, called the Mental Health professional at the hospital to take him and admit him and since the hospital didnt staff someone 24hrs. The MH professional felt that he didn't need to go. So they left and told my mom to get him into his counselor first thing in the morning. Thurs. My mom called repeatedly on Thurs to get him in, finally got a call back and said the 19th was the soonest.</p><p> </p><p>Friday was a 1/2day and he had promised my mom he would go. If he missed Friday that would be his 12 day and he basically had met the liimit for the number of days you can miss in a semester. (Presidents day, Valentines day 4 day weekend.) He promised he would go Tuesday. My mom was at her limit and didn't know what to do. During that weekend he had several explosions, etc. I told him if he didn't go to school on Tuesday he would be sent to a boys home, Residential Treatment Center (RTC), etc. something so he knew I was serious. As a group, me, my husband and my parents had decided something had to be done. I called his old counselors here and they gave me some numbers to call. Monday night he went to my mom and told her he couldn't go he was to scared, nervous, etc. She didn't make him go. She then told me she had changed her mind and he would do online school and do counseling. I flipped and said well when the next explosion happens call me and I will get the process started. It was maybe 2 days later and things were back to chaos. </p><p> </p><p>He saw his reg. counselor on the 19th and thats when she diag. Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) and started another mood medication. She told my mom he needs something soon or it will be jail and prison the rest of his life. I think thats when it finally hit my mom.</p><p> </p><p>Needless to say, yesterday I called an Educ. Consultant to get the process started. He can't live with them anymore and we are getting no help from the state or local hospitals. The counselor he saw on Mon. (the new one) told my mom that when he starts getting upset to hold him and say "I know you are upset, so lets figure out why." I laughed, if you even touch him when he starts getting anxious he FLIPS out.</p><p> </p><p>We are at the point of my parents walking on egg shells, afraid of him, he ?s her everytime I call. He is addicted to some computer game called "Runescape" and has been for sometime. Its like a world he can disappear into and be happy. When he comes back to reality it is a moment by moment second as to whether you can talk to him.</p><p> </p><p>We are going to be financially strapped from now until who knows when, but something has to be done. He can't move home and he can't live with them. He doesn't know its coming and he is going to flip out. I have no clue how we are going to get him there, but it has to be done.</p><p> </p><p>Thanks for listening to me vent, complain and finally let everything out..........my youngest son has been told about his brother going away, he said he didn't care as long as his problem finally got help and could be happy. </p><p> </p><p>As for finding out about those two boys, we have heard "things about them". They really didn't have alot of friends and I doubt any would talk to us. I haven't heard any rumors about my difficult child. My difficult child has never mentioned anything to his younger brother.</p><p> </p><p>Any suggestions are welcomed..............at this point my difficult child needs somewhere to address his mental state. School is whatever at this point, I just want him to be able to participate in society and not physically assult or abuse someone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dazed n Confused, post: 344338, member: 9086"] My son finished his first semester in 9th grade at home with us. By January he was having rages, took him to his Dr. who told us it was a "family" problem and for us to work it out. My parents stepped in and had him move in with them. He finished the 2nd semester of 9th grade living with them. He wanted to move home and lived with us while attending 10th grade. The beginning of 10th grade was fine with a few blow ups and it rapidly increased to where he was out of control. During this time he was seeing a psychiatric. and counselor, both thought it was anxiety and depression. My husband and I kept insisting there was more going on. He finally got so out of control that my mom picked him up the last day of 10th grade and he moved in with them. He started his 11th grade year living with them, completed the 1st semester, went 1 day of the 2nd semester and then didn't go for 6 days. Thats when my mom called and said she needed help with him. I think she truly thought it was "us" as parents and he really just had anxiety. Well the honeymoon was over that morning. My husband went over (3hr. drive) and got my son going back to school, he went 2 days. We thought everything was fine and my husband came home. While my husband was there, he took him to his counselor and said here is what is going on. She says wow I didn't realize it was this bad. My husband asked if she requested his records from when he lived with us, she didn't really want to admit that NO she didn't. She put my difficult child on Wellbutrin and said this was more than she could handle and set up an appointment. for him to see someone else once a week, she would still see him once a month. By the time my husband got home, she had faxed the medical releases to get his info. The next morning my son did not go to school, that was a friday. Monday came he didn't go to school. Then Tues, he refused to go and my mom called me, while on the phone he was in one of his "outbursts", I had her put it on speaker phone and I told him if he didn't start going to school and behaving he was going to a Residential Treatment Center (RTC), Boarding School Something. He flipped and then he had the emotional breakdown sobbing, etc. He wrote my mom a note appologizing saying he would go to school, behave etc. Well Wed. came and he refused to go. That night at 1030pm I get a phone call from him, screaming to leave him the F@#! alone, stay out of his life, he hated me, wish I would die. etc. I said to him, where are your grandparents, at this point I was worried about them. My husband found my cell phone and I called my moms cell phone, I muted our home phone while he was screaming and I asked her if she knew he had called. She said what, he went to bed, then she could hear him escalating. Long story short, when he figured out she was on the phone, he took it broke it, I called the cops. They arrived, called the Mental Health professional at the hospital to take him and admit him and since the hospital didnt staff someone 24hrs. The MH professional felt that he didn't need to go. So they left and told my mom to get him into his counselor first thing in the morning. Thurs. My mom called repeatedly on Thurs to get him in, finally got a call back and said the 19th was the soonest. Friday was a 1/2day and he had promised my mom he would go. If he missed Friday that would be his 12 day and he basically had met the liimit for the number of days you can miss in a semester. (Presidents day, Valentines day 4 day weekend.) He promised he would go Tuesday. My mom was at her limit and didn't know what to do. During that weekend he had several explosions, etc. I told him if he didn't go to school on Tuesday he would be sent to a boys home, Residential Treatment Center (RTC), etc. something so he knew I was serious. As a group, me, my husband and my parents had decided something had to be done. I called his old counselors here and they gave me some numbers to call. Monday night he went to my mom and told her he couldn't go he was to scared, nervous, etc. She didn't make him go. She then told me she had changed her mind and he would do online school and do counseling. I flipped and said well when the next explosion happens call me and I will get the process started. It was maybe 2 days later and things were back to chaos. He saw his reg. counselor on the 19th and thats when she diag. Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) and started another mood medication. She told my mom he needs something soon or it will be jail and prison the rest of his life. I think thats when it finally hit my mom. Needless to say, yesterday I called an Educ. Consultant to get the process started. He can't live with them anymore and we are getting no help from the state or local hospitals. The counselor he saw on Mon. (the new one) told my mom that when he starts getting upset to hold him and say "I know you are upset, so lets figure out why." I laughed, if you even touch him when he starts getting anxious he FLIPS out. We are at the point of my parents walking on egg shells, afraid of him, he ?s her everytime I call. He is addicted to some computer game called "Runescape" and has been for sometime. Its like a world he can disappear into and be happy. When he comes back to reality it is a moment by moment second as to whether you can talk to him. We are going to be financially strapped from now until who knows when, but something has to be done. He can't move home and he can't live with them. He doesn't know its coming and he is going to flip out. I have no clue how we are going to get him there, but it has to be done. Thanks for listening to me vent, complain and finally let everything out..........my youngest son has been told about his brother going away, he said he didn't care as long as his problem finally got help and could be happy. As for finding out about those two boys, we have heard "things about them". They really didn't have alot of friends and I doubt any would talk to us. I haven't heard any rumors about my difficult child. My difficult child has never mentioned anything to his younger brother. Any suggestions are welcomed..............at this point my difficult child needs somewhere to address his mental state. School is whatever at this point, I just want him to be able to participate in society and not physically assult or abuse someone. [/QUOTE]
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