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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 514965"><p>Sometimes we just have to vent. This stuff is so very hard. I agree, it is probably a good idea to pay for the remainder of her schooling to give her the tools she need to find a job (and to leave any inappropriate or even abusive relationship with a guy!).</p><p>However, you do not have to put up with an adult child who treats you poorly. Try to look at it from a different perspective. What are you saying to her or even teaching her when you do? It is probably best to detach from her as best as you can. Certainly, remove yourself pronto from any of her abuses. Limit paying for anything for her (with the exception of her school). And when school is over, if she continues to treat you poorly, don't pay for anything for her. She should know better to treat people in such a shabby fashion now and certainly by then if she continues to treat you in such a manner after her parents have paid for her education...well, then that is all on her. If this continues, consider going to a Family Anonymous Meeting or see a counselor for yourself. You can let her know that you love her, invite her out for her birthday and/or the the major holidays (IF and only IF she is acting appropriately), let her know that you love her, but that it is NOT OK for her to treat you in a shabby manner. Try to do this without showing your emotion. Perhaps in tme, things will change. Try to stay unemotional and find things you enjoy to do and DO THEM. Keep hope quietly on the back burner that things will be better in the future. It is up to her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 514965"] Sometimes we just have to vent. This stuff is so very hard. I agree, it is probably a good idea to pay for the remainder of her schooling to give her the tools she need to find a job (and to leave any inappropriate or even abusive relationship with a guy!). However, you do not have to put up with an adult child who treats you poorly. Try to look at it from a different perspective. What are you saying to her or even teaching her when you do? It is probably best to detach from her as best as you can. Certainly, remove yourself pronto from any of her abuses. Limit paying for anything for her (with the exception of her school). And when school is over, if she continues to treat you poorly, don't pay for anything for her. She should know better to treat people in such a shabby fashion now and certainly by then if she continues to treat you in such a manner after her parents have paid for her education...well, then that is all on her. If this continues, consider going to a Family Anonymous Meeting or see a counselor for yourself. You can let her know that you love her, invite her out for her birthday and/or the the major holidays (IF and only IF she is acting appropriately), let her know that you love her, but that it is NOT OK for her to treat you in a shabby manner. Try to do this without showing your emotion. Perhaps in tme, things will change. Try to stay unemotional and find things you enjoy to do and DO THEM. Keep hope quietly on the back burner that things will be better in the future. It is up to her. [/QUOTE]
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