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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 533318" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>It's very possible to achieve depending on how badly YOU want it, how much YOU work on yourself, and how long YOU commit to improving yourself. There were times Dot that I physically did not want to go. MENTALLY fought myself and it was Way easier to stay at home, and sulk, or watch tv, just blow the appointment off, or pick up the phone and pinch my nose and sound like I had a head cold, then bow out of the appointment - well that didn't work - my therapists WIFE was his secretary and she would say "OH honey I'm so sorry, okay we've got you down then for TUESDAY at 9 pm instead. (DRAT) I mean - the man worked M-Sun from 9 am till 10 PM - he was so awesome. </p><p></p><p>I don't know if there is such a thing as good therapist - I KNOW there are bad ones. - AND you will KNOW who they are. LICKITY split - they'll be the ones watching the clock three or four times in your session.....and cancelling your appointments on you - and otherwise not paying attention to you OR not giving you homework for the week to improve yourself on. I mean there's no Angies list for shrinks...(don't think) </p><p></p><p>My guy was a local man - faith based......and he was the therapist to the guys that were prisoners INSIDE the prison.....the worst of the worst. He'd authored a few books but was very humble.....he drove an old car - lived modestly - and his schedule was full. He helped everyone. Modest office.....and never one cancelled on me. He also did EMDR therapy which I believe in. (look it up_) </p><p></p><p>I liked men better than women......He seemed to realte to me better. Have no idea why - but most women like talking to women better. It's just whatever you like. </p><p></p><p>I went through five before I found him ======you just have to search until you find one you go - AHhhhhh I'm cofy here. And relaxed and feel like you don't get upset when they say "Well our time is up -and actually LOOK forward to coming back and talking about your progress." THEN? I think you know that's the one. And you'll start to see progress in yourself feel better and go - SHEESH I am SO geting this...</p><p></p><p>Oh and by the way - I hate to paint....lol. I'm just telling it like it is - and if it even sounds () much attractive to you? The place where I was in my life was SO far below where you are now? It doesn't even register on the depression scale. So yeah.....I've come a long, long way - but I did it myself. And I'm proud of that. I'm okay with me (mostly) and I have tools and I'm reinventing things all the time. I still get disappointed, and I've got problems and things I wish were different. I'm poor, but I'm blessed. I can organize YOU but I'm mostly scattered. It's a balance. You have to find yours and it takes a lot of time and work. Acceptance of self is a journey. </p><p></p><p>YOu'll do fine ------AND I'm always here to hold your hand and kick your butt. lol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 533318, member: 4964"] It's very possible to achieve depending on how badly YOU want it, how much YOU work on yourself, and how long YOU commit to improving yourself. There were times Dot that I physically did not want to go. MENTALLY fought myself and it was Way easier to stay at home, and sulk, or watch tv, just blow the appointment off, or pick up the phone and pinch my nose and sound like I had a head cold, then bow out of the appointment - well that didn't work - my therapists WIFE was his secretary and she would say "OH honey I'm so sorry, okay we've got you down then for TUESDAY at 9 pm instead. (DRAT) I mean - the man worked M-Sun from 9 am till 10 PM - he was so awesome. I don't know if there is such a thing as good therapist - I KNOW there are bad ones. - AND you will KNOW who they are. LICKITY split - they'll be the ones watching the clock three or four times in your session.....and cancelling your appointments on you - and otherwise not paying attention to you OR not giving you homework for the week to improve yourself on. I mean there's no Angies list for shrinks...(don't think) My guy was a local man - faith based......and he was the therapist to the guys that were prisoners INSIDE the prison.....the worst of the worst. He'd authored a few books but was very humble.....he drove an old car - lived modestly - and his schedule was full. He helped everyone. Modest office.....and never one cancelled on me. He also did EMDR therapy which I believe in. (look it up_) I liked men better than women......He seemed to realte to me better. Have no idea why - but most women like talking to women better. It's just whatever you like. I went through five before I found him ======you just have to search until you find one you go - AHhhhhh I'm cofy here. And relaxed and feel like you don't get upset when they say "Well our time is up -and actually LOOK forward to coming back and talking about your progress." THEN? I think you know that's the one. And you'll start to see progress in yourself feel better and go - SHEESH I am SO geting this... Oh and by the way - I hate to paint....lol. I'm just telling it like it is - and if it even sounds () much attractive to you? The place where I was in my life was SO far below where you are now? It doesn't even register on the depression scale. So yeah.....I've come a long, long way - but I did it myself. And I'm proud of that. I'm okay with me (mostly) and I have tools and I'm reinventing things all the time. I still get disappointed, and I've got problems and things I wish were different. I'm poor, but I'm blessed. I can organize YOU but I'm mostly scattered. It's a balance. You have to find yours and it takes a lot of time and work. Acceptance of self is a journey. YOu'll do fine ------AND I'm always here to hold your hand and kick your butt. lol. [/QUOTE]
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