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<blockquote data-quote="dotty" data-source="post: 533801" data-attributes="member: 14148"><p>I'm very glad today's over too. I really got to see my daughter in her current state, how cold, mean, unemotional she really is. She's not the sweet little girl I keep trying to get back. She was so proud of herself, you could see it by the smirk on her face. The more I suffered, the happier she got. I do need therapy, no doubt, especially after today, but I don't know that I will ever forget today. She's abused me! So much over the last two years. I have actual body scars to prove the way she clawed her nails into my flesh, but today was a different kind of abuse, and I don't care how many years of therapy I may be entering into....I feel differently today. Almost in a good way, that I can finally let her go and not call or text or care that she doesn't call me or want to meet with me. After today, I don't care. She has made me cry, hurt, and beg like no mother should ever have to. She had her legal woes and I did everything I could to keep her record clean, to keep her future safe, and today I have an order of protection against me that didn't need to be. I don't bother Bozo, don't plan on it. I was a good mom to her and she knows all the things I went through for her, but she threw me to the wolves today all for a boy who is nothing...I mean nothing, but every mother's worst nightmare. Another thing I realized today. I always believed my daughter was too good for this boy, that she deserved someone better. I was wrong. They are perfectly suited to one another. She is where she needs to be and with who she needs to be with. They are very much the same and deserve each other more than any two people ever should.</p><p></p><p>It's been 7 1/2 days since I called, texted, or tried any contact. And guess what? I'm not crying, and I'm not trying to keep myself from my cell phone keys. I've cried all day today, still in disbelief of her actions toward me. Even my lawyer and the judge felt bad about the situation and this is certainly family dysfunction at its best. Maybe in time I'll forgive ALL the things she's done to me, but I will never ever forget and I will never trust her enough to want anything with her. If we get to the point where we can exchange Christmas cards once a year, that's good enough for me. Yes I'm angry. Yes I'm hurt, but I won't allow someone like her to destroy me anymore. There will come a day that she will wonder why mom hasn't called, wondered why mom doesn't care, and maybe she'll call or text. And guess what? I can't wait for that day so that I can hit the "delete" button with no response whatsoever. She crossed the line today. A line she had no business crossing. If Bozo wanted to pursue something against me, it was his call to make, but for her to go to court clinging to him, siding with him, lying on behalf of him. Well, that's really all I needed to say to make me totally want to vomit.</p><p></p><p>Today she is dead to me and I've buried her. Thanks for your continued thoughts and prayers. Not every mother and daughter are meant to be close. Not every mother and daughter are meant to even be friends. She's my child. I still love her becaues I'm her mom and I'm supposed to. But I really am not feeling the love right now and haven't in a while. So perhaps the fact we are where we are is the best thing for the both of us and I just didn't realize it until today. <3 And I don't really want her to be unhappy forever...just long enough to see what a mistake she made in getting involved with Bozo. He's destroyed our family like he promised me he would, and my daughter helped him do it. Long, sad day. I'm just done with her forever. I have no desire to try. I have no desire to see her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dotty, post: 533801, member: 14148"] I'm very glad today's over too. I really got to see my daughter in her current state, how cold, mean, unemotional she really is. She's not the sweet little girl I keep trying to get back. She was so proud of herself, you could see it by the smirk on her face. The more I suffered, the happier she got. I do need therapy, no doubt, especially after today, but I don't know that I will ever forget today. She's abused me! So much over the last two years. I have actual body scars to prove the way she clawed her nails into my flesh, but today was a different kind of abuse, and I don't care how many years of therapy I may be entering into....I feel differently today. Almost in a good way, that I can finally let her go and not call or text or care that she doesn't call me or want to meet with me. After today, I don't care. She has made me cry, hurt, and beg like no mother should ever have to. She had her legal woes and I did everything I could to keep her record clean, to keep her future safe, and today I have an order of protection against me that didn't need to be. I don't bother Bozo, don't plan on it. I was a good mom to her and she knows all the things I went through for her, but she threw me to the wolves today all for a boy who is nothing...I mean nothing, but every mother's worst nightmare. Another thing I realized today. I always believed my daughter was too good for this boy, that she deserved someone better. I was wrong. They are perfectly suited to one another. She is where she needs to be and with who she needs to be with. They are very much the same and deserve each other more than any two people ever should. It's been 7 1/2 days since I called, texted, or tried any contact. And guess what? I'm not crying, and I'm not trying to keep myself from my cell phone keys. I've cried all day today, still in disbelief of her actions toward me. Even my lawyer and the judge felt bad about the situation and this is certainly family dysfunction at its best. Maybe in time I'll forgive ALL the things she's done to me, but I will never ever forget and I will never trust her enough to want anything with her. If we get to the point where we can exchange Christmas cards once a year, that's good enough for me. Yes I'm angry. Yes I'm hurt, but I won't allow someone like her to destroy me anymore. There will come a day that she will wonder why mom hasn't called, wondered why mom doesn't care, and maybe she'll call or text. And guess what? I can't wait for that day so that I can hit the "delete" button with no response whatsoever. She crossed the line today. A line she had no business crossing. If Bozo wanted to pursue something against me, it was his call to make, but for her to go to court clinging to him, siding with him, lying on behalf of him. Well, that's really all I needed to say to make me totally want to vomit. Today she is dead to me and I've buried her. Thanks for your continued thoughts and prayers. Not every mother and daughter are meant to be close. Not every mother and daughter are meant to even be friends. She's my child. I still love her becaues I'm her mom and I'm supposed to. But I really am not feeling the love right now and haven't in a while. So perhaps the fact we are where we are is the best thing for the both of us and I just didn't realize it until today. <3 And I don't really want her to be unhappy forever...just long enough to see what a mistake she made in getting involved with Bozo. He's destroyed our family like he promised me he would, and my daughter helped him do it. Long, sad day. I'm just done with her forever. I have no desire to try. I have no desire to see her. [/QUOTE]
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