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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 517744" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p><a href="http://dbrt.blogs.sd73.bc.ca/2012/01/10/the-zones-of-regulation/" target="_blank">http://dbrt.blogs.sd73.bc.ca/2012/01/10/the-zones-of-regulation/</a></p><p></p><p>read this review of a program I have talked about here...it is nationally known, and in book form now....many here can relate I am sure...very common type of thing in lots of programs for kids who have these kinds of issues.</p><p></p><p>Hi, I will stop by again.....but just wanted you to know I am touched by your post. I too have a child who has been aggressive on and off for most of his life and is back in a phase of hurting me about every other day. We always find a way to work through it, and I can always figure out if it is medications or a specific situation. But it sure is exhausting and I lose my way many times.</p><p></p><p>The above link goes to what is now a published system--The Zones of Regulation-- and it worked well for my son. Many people are familiar with the five point scale and how does your engine run etc....methods for helping kids modify their emotional states. This Occupational Therapist (OT) is actually from our district and before her book was published our district was using her stuff and they made a program around it for my son. When people were using it it was wonderful (admin made it impossible to run the program and things fell apart). Our home people went to the trainings too so we were all on the same page. She uses things from CPS (Ross Greene), 5 point scale, and many others and kind of fills in the holes. Gives a really concrete way to work on this. My son checks in first thing daily to say which zone he is in. He is really getting good at starting to get to his learning/green zone without prompts. A big difference is that there is a blue zone which is more of a shut down (for my son sometimes a good zone because he is using it to prevent red zone)....some kids have this as their main issue and most of the other programs do not address kids who shut down.</p><p></p><p>Just thought I'd share it because it goes nicely with many other skill building types of behavior programs. Sometimes we need concrete things to do with our kids....it is hard to figure out those things from some of the books even when what they say clearly describes our situations and problems with alternative systems. What specifically to say and do can be tricky to figure out. In fact I thought we should start some threads about how we have actually have handled situations on this board. I get such good ideas from people here.</p><p></p><p>Please do not feel badly for your feelings. For me, I have learned it is situational....when one is being hurt our brains are going to feel negative.... it is HUMAN nature. (I even feel as if he is a stranger and I could fight him and picture myself hurting him....it is an automatic thought and feeling and I have learned it is just instinct, my morals and beliefs and parental feelings over-ride those automatic feelings). I can really relate to that though. Will talk more later if you want to about that. I have worked through it a lot but it is constant accurate messages to myself that help me work through it. Support here too. There are MANY of us in this situation. (my son is adopted too but there are several bio parents here dealing with being hurt by their kids too).</p><p></p><p>I haven't read all of the posts, Does your daughter have attachment issues (anywhere on the spectrum...insecure, indiscriminate, just some problems,) or any PTSD from her pre 1 year experiences???</p><p></p><p>HUGS, will be back later...off to take Q to school.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 517744, member: 12886"] [URL]http://dbrt.blogs.sd73.bc.ca/2012/01/10/the-zones-of-regulation/[/URL] read this review of a program I have talked about here...it is nationally known, and in book form now....many here can relate I am sure...very common type of thing in lots of programs for kids who have these kinds of issues. Hi, I will stop by again.....but just wanted you to know I am touched by your post. I too have a child who has been aggressive on and off for most of his life and is back in a phase of hurting me about every other day. We always find a way to work through it, and I can always figure out if it is medications or a specific situation. But it sure is exhausting and I lose my way many times. The above link goes to what is now a published system--The Zones of Regulation-- and it worked well for my son. Many people are familiar with the five point scale and how does your engine run etc....methods for helping kids modify their emotional states. This Occupational Therapist (OT) is actually from our district and before her book was published our district was using her stuff and they made a program around it for my son. When people were using it it was wonderful (admin made it impossible to run the program and things fell apart). Our home people went to the trainings too so we were all on the same page. She uses things from CPS (Ross Greene), 5 point scale, and many others and kind of fills in the holes. Gives a really concrete way to work on this. My son checks in first thing daily to say which zone he is in. He is really getting good at starting to get to his learning/green zone without prompts. A big difference is that there is a blue zone which is more of a shut down (for my son sometimes a good zone because he is using it to prevent red zone)....some kids have this as their main issue and most of the other programs do not address kids who shut down. Just thought I'd share it because it goes nicely with many other skill building types of behavior programs. Sometimes we need concrete things to do with our kids....it is hard to figure out those things from some of the books even when what they say clearly describes our situations and problems with alternative systems. What specifically to say and do can be tricky to figure out. In fact I thought we should start some threads about how we have actually have handled situations on this board. I get such good ideas from people here. Please do not feel badly for your feelings. For me, I have learned it is situational....when one is being hurt our brains are going to feel negative.... it is HUMAN nature. (I even feel as if he is a stranger and I could fight him and picture myself hurting him....it is an automatic thought and feeling and I have learned it is just instinct, my morals and beliefs and parental feelings over-ride those automatic feelings). I can really relate to that though. Will talk more later if you want to about that. I have worked through it a lot but it is constant accurate messages to myself that help me work through it. Support here too. There are MANY of us in this situation. (my son is adopted too but there are several bio parents here dealing with being hurt by their kids too). I haven't read all of the posts, Does your daughter have attachment issues (anywhere on the spectrum...insecure, indiscriminate, just some problems,) or any PTSD from her pre 1 year experiences??? HUGS, will be back later...off to take Q to school. [/QUOTE]
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