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<blockquote data-quote="Snoopy" data-source="post: 518125" data-attributes="member: 14038"><p>bigbear11...your daughter may not have attachment issues but in my humble opinion it sounds as though she's experiencing the lingering effects of trauma and neglect. And chances are...she truly cannot control her behavior. It may "look" like she can but in reality, she can't. When she slips into the primitive part of her brain due to any sort of stressor (the fight, flight, freeze mode called the pons part of the brain), she is truly in survival mode. This is what allowed her to survive in the orphanage setting. It's like someone hijacks her brain and she has no control. This is VERY common in a child who lived in an orphanage or any child who was neglected...on purpose or otherwise. My internationally adopted daughter had attachment issues and trauma but her behaviors were similar to what you describe. I have a friend who lives in my neighborhood and her daughter has zero attachment issues but she suffers from the neurological effects of living in an orphanage...trauma, neglect, and abuse...and she has self regulation issues. Kiddos like ours did not get that early nurturing and tender loving care so their brains are different. In order to heal this, their brains must be healed. Know too that it's VERY normal for theses challenges to be cyclical. They will do fine for awhile and then the bottom will fall out. I see that you think you can receive PMs now. I'm going to try to send you that long message I mentioned in my previous post. It will come in 7 separate PMs because it's so long.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Snoopy, post: 518125, member: 14038"] bigbear11...your daughter may not have attachment issues but in my humble opinion it sounds as though she's experiencing the lingering effects of trauma and neglect. And chances are...she truly cannot control her behavior. It may "look" like she can but in reality, she can't. When she slips into the primitive part of her brain due to any sort of stressor (the fight, flight, freeze mode called the pons part of the brain), she is truly in survival mode. This is what allowed her to survive in the orphanage setting. It's like someone hijacks her brain and she has no control. This is VERY common in a child who lived in an orphanage or any child who was neglected...on purpose or otherwise. My internationally adopted daughter had attachment issues and trauma but her behaviors were similar to what you describe. I have a friend who lives in my neighborhood and her daughter has zero attachment issues but she suffers from the neurological effects of living in an orphanage...trauma, neglect, and abuse...and she has self regulation issues. Kiddos like ours did not get that early nurturing and tender loving care so their brains are different. In order to heal this, their brains must be healed. Know too that it's VERY normal for theses challenges to be cyclical. They will do fine for awhile and then the bottom will fall out. I see that you think you can receive PMs now. I'm going to try to send you that long message I mentioned in my previous post. It will come in 7 separate PMs because it's so long. [/QUOTE]
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