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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 448896"><p>Oh hugs this is a hard situation. One thing I would say is don't put all the blame on the other kid. Your son is responsible for his own actions, and although he may be influenced by this other kid, your son needs to be held accountable for his own behavior.... I wouldn't mention any of your feelings about his friend to him, it won't get you anywhere.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like your son has a substance abuse problem... have no idea how serious but I would recommend you cut off anything that supports his drug use. So don't give him money and insist he pay for gas. I agree with exhausted sit down with hubby and write up a list of house rules, give it to him and tell him that if he lives there he needs to follow the rules. It is reasonable to tell him that if he is living with you he cant use drugs...although it gets into a slippery slope because that is something you probably know he will lie about. Don't know if you want to get into drug testing him or not... that can also be a slippery slope as we found out, because they will find ways around the drug tests.</p><p></p><p>The thing is if you tell him he needs to follow the rules to live there, then you need to be ready to kick him out if he doesn't...that is hard to do but sometimes what is needed.</p><p></p><p>Letting him live at your house and not follow the rules is enabling his bad behavior and does him no good.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 448896"] Oh hugs this is a hard situation. One thing I would say is don't put all the blame on the other kid. Your son is responsible for his own actions, and although he may be influenced by this other kid, your son needs to be held accountable for his own behavior.... I wouldn't mention any of your feelings about his friend to him, it won't get you anywhere. It sounds like your son has a substance abuse problem... have no idea how serious but I would recommend you cut off anything that supports his drug use. So don't give him money and insist he pay for gas. I agree with exhausted sit down with hubby and write up a list of house rules, give it to him and tell him that if he lives there he needs to follow the rules. It is reasonable to tell him that if he is living with you he cant use drugs...although it gets into a slippery slope because that is something you probably know he will lie about. Don't know if you want to get into drug testing him or not... that can also be a slippery slope as we found out, because they will find ways around the drug tests. The thing is if you tell him he needs to follow the rules to live there, then you need to be ready to kick him out if he doesn't...that is hard to do but sometimes what is needed. Letting him live at your house and not follow the rules is enabling his bad behavior and does him no good. TL [/QUOTE]
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