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<blockquote data-quote="seriously" data-source="post: 448923" data-attributes="member: 11920"><p>This is going to be hard to swallow - but your husband is right.</p><p></p><p>As others have said - your son is a man. He has to bear the consequences for the choices he is making - as a man.</p><p></p><p>The longer you protect him the worse it is going to be.</p><p></p><p>Do you really want to teach him that it is ok to prey on those who love him? Because that's what he has started to do.</p><p></p><p>You and your husband need to sit down and decide together what the rules will be and the consequences of those rules - even if it means he gets kicked out with no where to go and no phone and no car. Your son owes everything to you and he needs to understand that he's making choices that are putting all of that at risk.</p><p></p><p>Then you and your husband together must tell your son what the rules are and what will happen if (when) he breaks the rules.</p><p></p><p>Next is the most important step - you MUST follow through.</p><p></p><p>The rest of the world is not going to say "oh honey, you're just a young kid, you've fallen in with bad company, here you can have a second chance."</p><p></p><p>They're going to say "you were caught with drugs, you were caught with stolen property, you were transporting drugs for sale" etc.</p><p></p><p>and the world will crash on him.</p><p></p><p>The only prayer you have of helping keep that from happening is to do it to him FIRST. Maybe he will learn the lesson before he gets a criminal record and so addicted to drugs that he can't go anywhere but the street.</p><p></p><p>Hugs. it's hard but you have to do this Mom. Your son doesn't know it but he's counting on you to hold the line and tell him with your actions that he is a MAN now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="seriously, post: 448923, member: 11920"] This is going to be hard to swallow - but your husband is right. As others have said - your son is a man. He has to bear the consequences for the choices he is making - as a man. The longer you protect him the worse it is going to be. Do you really want to teach him that it is ok to prey on those who love him? Because that's what he has started to do. You and your husband need to sit down and decide together what the rules will be and the consequences of those rules - even if it means he gets kicked out with no where to go and no phone and no car. Your son owes everything to you and he needs to understand that he's making choices that are putting all of that at risk. Then you and your husband together must tell your son what the rules are and what will happen if (when) he breaks the rules. Next is the most important step - you MUST follow through. The rest of the world is not going to say "oh honey, you're just a young kid, you've fallen in with bad company, here you can have a second chance." They're going to say "you were caught with drugs, you were caught with stolen property, you were transporting drugs for sale" etc. and the world will crash on him. The only prayer you have of helping keep that from happening is to do it to him FIRST. Maybe he will learn the lesson before he gets a criminal record and so addicted to drugs that he can't go anywhere but the street. Hugs. it's hard but you have to do this Mom. Your son doesn't know it but he's counting on you to hold the line and tell him with your actions that he is a MAN now. [/QUOTE]
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