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<blockquote data-quote="Just keep swimming" data-source="post: 39864" data-attributes="member: 211"><p>Awesome suggestions everyone! </p><p></p><p>To answer a few questions, Yes, he is in daycare 4 days, nearly all day a week. girlfriend goes to full time college, works part time for my easy child 2 either takes him to school or picks him up or his other Gma does. So, there are alot of changes in his little life. He has a dead beat bio Dad who shows up to visit when HE feels like it, not when the court order times/days are. girlfriend is afraid to fight him as his family has alot of $ and are the type to try to take him away from her. Believe me, even with all his issues, being with bio dad anymore than an hour or two at a time would be a disaster.</p><p></p><p>girlfriend signed him up for PeeWee soccer this past fall. Had to take him out because he was NOT going to be sharing that ball with ANYONE!! I asked her if she would let me take him, he behaves better with me alone, but she was hesitant. </p><p></p><p>What I am most worried about at this time is that, like yesterday when they picked him up, girlfriend was shocked that "R" would do something so violent as to scratch up Jayme so badly in the face. "That is SO not "R" We had a house full and I really didn't feel it was the appropriate time to state the fact that, well yes, it is! He has bit Jayme, shoved her (knocking her down since she is not super coordinated) slapped her, etc... I feel like I am in such a rock and a hard place as R will be in our family, but I think girlfriend needs to get tough on him NOW before it becomes an even worse situation. He has been asked to leave 2 preschools, and she removed him from another because "the other kids were picking on him". </p><p></p><p>My son corrects him when he is here more strongly than his girlfriend does. Not sure if she is embarrassed to correct him in front of us or if that is just not her thing. Her mom is the same. Very soft, cuddly, etc and not too consistent with the discipline. I am trying hard to slip little things into conversations about how I had to handle certain circumstances with Aly, etc. Also, I am really reading alot of Dr. Bryan Post's books and sharing that info with son and girlfriend. </p><p></p><p>My mom said to correct him if girlfriend won't, reminded me of our house rule, "absolutely NO violence allowed in this house!" </p><p></p><p>Jayme's face looks horrible this morning. I have been putting Neosporin on it and washing it regularly, but one scratch is really close to her eye, so I can't put the Neosporin on it. School about flipped out when they saw it this morning. I had to explain a very shortened version of what went on! This is the 3rd time she has went to school with some sort of bite mark, scratches or bruise from R. CPS please do not show up! We are trying to keep them apart as much as possible or do cooperate play. Yesterday was better than Saturday as we were working out back cleaning off all the play equipment and he got to use the hose to squirt everything off. He actually asked Jayme if she wanted a turn!!!</p><p></p><p>Well, thanks for listening! </p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Vickie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Just keep swimming, post: 39864, member: 211"] Awesome suggestions everyone! To answer a few questions, Yes, he is in daycare 4 days, nearly all day a week. girlfriend goes to full time college, works part time for my easy child 2 either takes him to school or picks him up or his other Gma does. So, there are alot of changes in his little life. He has a dead beat bio Dad who shows up to visit when HE feels like it, not when the court order times/days are. girlfriend is afraid to fight him as his family has alot of $ and are the type to try to take him away from her. Believe me, even with all his issues, being with bio dad anymore than an hour or two at a time would be a disaster. girlfriend signed him up for PeeWee soccer this past fall. Had to take him out because he was NOT going to be sharing that ball with ANYONE!! I asked her if she would let me take him, he behaves better with me alone, but she was hesitant. What I am most worried about at this time is that, like yesterday when they picked him up, girlfriend was shocked that "R" would do something so violent as to scratch up Jayme so badly in the face. "That is SO not "R" We had a house full and I really didn't feel it was the appropriate time to state the fact that, well yes, it is! He has bit Jayme, shoved her (knocking her down since she is not super coordinated) slapped her, etc... I feel like I am in such a rock and a hard place as R will be in our family, but I think girlfriend needs to get tough on him NOW before it becomes an even worse situation. He has been asked to leave 2 preschools, and she removed him from another because "the other kids were picking on him". My son corrects him when he is here more strongly than his girlfriend does. Not sure if she is embarrassed to correct him in front of us or if that is just not her thing. Her mom is the same. Very soft, cuddly, etc and not too consistent with the discipline. I am trying hard to slip little things into conversations about how I had to handle certain circumstances with Aly, etc. Also, I am really reading alot of Dr. Bryan Post's books and sharing that info with son and girlfriend. My mom said to correct him if girlfriend won't, reminded me of our house rule, "absolutely NO violence allowed in this house!" Jayme's face looks horrible this morning. I have been putting Neosporin on it and washing it regularly, but one scratch is really close to her eye, so I can't put the Neosporin on it. School about flipped out when they saw it this morning. I had to explain a very shortened version of what went on! This is the 3rd time she has went to school with some sort of bite mark, scratches or bruise from R. CPS please do not show up! We are trying to keep them apart as much as possible or do cooperate play. Yesterday was better than Saturday as we were working out back cleaning off all the play equipment and he got to use the hose to squirt everything off. He actually asked Jayme if she wanted a turn!!! Well, thanks for listening! Hugs, Vickie [/QUOTE]
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