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<blockquote data-quote="kymmie" data-source="post: 205170" data-attributes="member: 6165"><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Thank you all for your comments. As for some of your questions:</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">'Has he ever been evaluated outside of a regular pediatrician or school?' No, I took him to his pediatrician looking for guidance and referral, but the doctor felt my son was just hyperactive and prescribed Guanfacine. I am going to research my insurance company to see if I need his referral to a psychologist or not. I remember looking into psychologist on my insurance co. provider list while he was still in kindergarten, but had difficulty finding someone who specialized in child philology. Worth another look since the problem has continued into another school year.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">'Are there any psychiatric problems or substance abuse on either side of the family tree?' Not diagnosed, but I feel my husband has some anger management problems. He has difficulty controlling his temper. He also makes attempts to control every little move my sons (my other son is 5 yrs old), I think he tries to make them into obedient little robots (he was in the military, so I think that is where it comes from).</span></span></p><p> </p><p></p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">'Any speech delays, trouble with eye contact, resistance to cuddling, inappropriateness with peers, lack of imaginative play?' Hard to say, compared to his brother I felt there was delayed talking, but I just assumed it was because his younger brother had an older brother to learn from. No trouble with eye contact except when he is in trouble. He does not initiate cuddling like his younger brother, but he doesn't resist when I initiate. He has gotten angry with a peer who told the teacher he did something when he seemed adamant that he didn't do it, but I think a lot of what makes him angry is getting in trouble with the teacher. He is not as imaginative as his little brother, but there is some imaginative play.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">'Did he have any motor skill delays or problems?' No, this has all been normal.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">'Do noises or light or touch of certain things bother him?' No, not any that I have noticed.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">'Did you have a normal pregnancy?' Up until my last month (September 11, 2001), I was in the military working at the pentagon's backup communication facility, scared we were being targeted by terrorists. The stress caused hypertension, they put me on bed rest but when my condition didn't improve they induced labor, all was normal after birth.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">'Has he been tested for a learning disability?' No, his teacher thinks he is the smartest kid in the class. When he is having a good day, he is allowed to help other students with their math assignment. But yesterday he thought he would be funny and answer every math problem with a 1. I spoke to his teacher last night and she suggested providing some more challenging assignments as extra credit, which could keep him focused.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">'Has his eye sight been checked out recently?' Yes, he wears glasses in the classroom and doing his homework.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">' No punishing, just talking about what happened and what can be done to prevent it. Try to find out how he feels before or during his misbehavior. Can he figure out a trigger?' I have tried, but when confronted with what he has done wrong he just shuts down, refusing to speak at all. Occasionally I get him to nod to yes or no questions, but then I feel like I am leading him into an excuse for his behavior and he just follows along with what I suggest. For example I will ask if he was tired, he nods yes, I feel sorry for him and adjust his bedtime, and all is forgiven. I don't think I am getting the truth with these talks. One time his father sent him to the corner until he could explain why he did something, I thought he was going to spend all night there if I allowed it, so I did the motherly thing and coerced &#8216;an' answer from him.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">' As for disciplining - he does not understand why he is acting like this.' I think you are right about this, but I have to get him to understand the behavior is not acceptable.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">'I'm not a doctor, but wanted to say that anxiety can make a kid do things like that.' I am pretty sure anxiety is a problem, but I don't know if getting into so much trouble at school causes the anxiety (he is afraid of how his Mommy and Daddy will react when they find out about his behavior) or if the anxiety is causing the problems at school.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">My husband and I have a difference of opinion, he feels the teacher is not strict enough and my son is just testing her limits and when he figures out she won't let him get away with anything, he will quit testing. In my opinion, I think she needs to pick her battles, which is what she is trying to do. He is not a robot who's every little movement can be controlled, he is an energetic little boy who has trouble sitting still, what harm is there in letting him get up and move about every so often.</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="kymmie, post: 205170, member: 6165"] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]Thank you all for your comments. As for some of your questions:[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Verdana]'Has he ever been evaluated outside of a regular pediatrician or school?' No, I took him to his pediatrician looking for guidance and referral, but the doctor felt my son was just hyperactive and prescribed Guanfacine. I am going to research my insurance company to see if I need his referral to a psychologist or not. I remember looking into psychologist on my insurance co. provider list while he was still in kindergarten, but had difficulty finding someone who specialized in child philology. Worth another look since the problem has continued into another school year.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]'Are there any psychiatric problems or substance abuse on either side of the family tree?' Not diagnosed, but I feel my husband has some anger management problems. He has difficulty controlling his temper. He also makes attempts to control every little move my sons (my other son is 5 yrs old), I think he tries to make them into obedient little robots (he was in the military, so I think that is where it comes from).[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]'Any speech delays, trouble with eye contact, resistance to cuddling, inappropriateness with peers, lack of imaginative play?' Hard to say, compared to his brother I felt there was delayed talking, but I just assumed it was because his younger brother had an older brother to learn from. No trouble with eye contact except when he is in trouble. He does not initiate cuddling like his younger brother, but he doesn't resist when I initiate. He has gotten angry with a peer who told the teacher he did something when he seemed adamant that he didn't do it, but I think a lot of what makes him angry is getting in trouble with the teacher. He is not as imaginative as his little brother, but there is some imaginative play.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]'Did he have any motor skill delays or problems?' No, this has all been normal.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]'Do noises or light or touch of certain things bother him?' No, not any that I have noticed.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]'Did you have a normal pregnancy?' Up until my last month (September 11, 2001), I was in the military working at the pentagon's backup communication facility, scared we were being targeted by terrorists. The stress caused hypertension, they put me on bed rest but when my condition didn't improve they induced labor, all was normal after birth.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]'Has he been tested for a learning disability?' No, his teacher thinks he is the smartest kid in the class. When he is having a good day, he is allowed to help other students with their math assignment. But yesterday he thought he would be funny and answer every math problem with a 1. I spoke to his teacher last night and she suggested providing some more challenging assignments as extra credit, which could keep him focused.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]'Has his eye sight been checked out recently?' Yes, he wears glasses in the classroom and doing his homework.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]' No punishing, just talking about what happened and what can be done to prevent it. Try to find out how he feels before or during his misbehavior. Can he figure out a trigger?' I have tried, but when confronted with what he has done wrong he just shuts down, refusing to speak at all. Occasionally I get him to nod to yes or no questions, but then I feel like I am leading him into an excuse for his behavior and he just follows along with what I suggest. For example I will ask if he was tired, he nods yes, I feel sorry for him and adjust his bedtime, and all is forgiven. I don't think I am getting the truth with these talks. One time his father sent him to the corner until he could explain why he did something, I thought he was going to spend all night there if I allowed it, so I did the motherly thing and coerced ‘an' answer from him.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]' As for disciplining - he does not understand why he is acting like this.' I think you are right about this, but I have to get him to understand the behavior is not acceptable.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]'I'm not a doctor, but wanted to say that anxiety can make a kid do things like that.' I am pretty sure anxiety is a problem, but I don't know if getting into so much trouble at school causes the anxiety (he is afraid of how his Mommy and Daddy will react when they find out about his behavior) or if the anxiety is causing the problems at school.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]My husband and I have a difference of opinion, he feels the teacher is not strict enough and my son is just testing her limits and when he figures out she won't let him get away with anything, he will quit testing. In my opinion, I think she needs to pick her battles, which is what she is trying to do. He is not a robot who's every little movement can be controlled, he is an energetic little boy who has trouble sitting still, what harm is there in letting him get up and move about every so often.[/FONT][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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