Welcome KJS...
I am sorry you are having such a hard time.
It sounds like your son is being medicated for bipolar even though he is only carrying the ODD diagnosis. I say this because I am taking the lamictal/topamax combo too and I am bipolar.
12 years old is a very hard age for kids. Personally I think they should allow us to ship them off at 12 and bring them back at 21! Can you tell Im not partial to teens? LOL. Anyway...all joking aside, things can get some better but it will be hard for awhile since he is going through puberty.
You say he is in SE which I assume is Special Education. If they are kicking him out so often then they need to find something else that works better than that. Check in with the folks on our Special Education section for help there.
Keep talking to us and tell us what problems you are having and we will try to give you suggestions. We are a great group of parents and what works for one of us may work for you and hey...something you have tried may work for one of us!
