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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 364121" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I don't know where you live (it does matter) but NO school has a "right" to do what they want to do to your child who has an IEP without your input. If this principal insists on allowing your difficult child to be bullied, I'd call the cops on the kids who were doing it and inform them that the school will not help. It's pretty standard where we live for the cops to get involved if kids are bullied and it can be very effective. There is no way on the face of the earth I'd ALLOW my child to be bullied let alone tell that child that she will be punished for fighting back and the tormentors won't. The principal is an old fashion coot (sorry, hope I didn't offend anyone) <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" />. In my day, we were told we had to learn to "deal with it." They know better today. Nobody should EVER have to worry about bullying in school. If the bullies do that as adults, they will be arrested. </p><p>If your school superintendant (yes, I'd jump up th e ladder) does nothing, I'd call the Dept. of Public Education in your state (yes, I'd jump all the way to the top). They WILL listen to you and help you. For one thing, they can find you a free parent advocate who will attend your meetings and IEP meetings with you. Since they know the laws of the state, the school will not be pleased to see an advocate with you because while the schools often snow US, they CAN'T snow an advocate who will often speak for you (you meet the advocate in advance). Also, if your school district is being abusive or breaking any rules the Dept. of Public Education WILL investigate. The school districts really freak out and get on their game then because funding for each district is decided by the Dept. of Public Education<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" />. The people in the Special Education Dept. of our Dept. of Public Ed are really nice and helpful and threw me a zillion resources as well as threatening to investigate our school district. Guess what? We got exactly what we wanted for our son the very next day. What a coincidence!</p><p>I am on kid #5 and I've learned how to best deal with the school districts through having five kids. In short:</p><p></p><p>1<em><strong>/Nice guys finish last</strong></em>...parents who are intimidated or give in or believe everything they are told are a SD's dream and they will not treat you or your child better because you are a nice parent</p><p></p><p>2/The more involved you are with your child PLUS the more they know you hang around with knowledgeable sources...and can produce them...the more your child benefits. Forget the fear that if you make waves your child is picked on by the school. I've never ever heard of that happening. If anything, they bend over backward to please you if they know you aren't going to let them mistreat your child. I also got to know the teachers all very well, BUT as an equal and a peer. A teacher is not above me regarding my child. I'm above her/him. I know my child better. Also, remember that teachers and principals and all educators are not psychiatrists or psychologists. </p><p></p><p>My best short advice is: <u><em><strong>Don't be intimidated, never ACT intimidated, and go to the top for your child.</strong></em></u></p><p></p><p>Good luck, whatever you decide to do. This school district is playing games with you and if you're done playing games, I'd stop...your Dept. of Public Education is usually in the state capital. Ask for the Special Needs Dept. and talk to a representative. Hope it all works out for you <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 364121, member: 1550"] I don't know where you live (it does matter) but NO school has a "right" to do what they want to do to your child who has an IEP without your input. If this principal insists on allowing your difficult child to be bullied, I'd call the cops on the kids who were doing it and inform them that the school will not help. It's pretty standard where we live for the cops to get involved if kids are bullied and it can be very effective. There is no way on the face of the earth I'd ALLOW my child to be bullied let alone tell that child that she will be punished for fighting back and the tormentors won't. The principal is an old fashion coot (sorry, hope I didn't offend anyone) :raspberry-tounge:. In my day, we were told we had to learn to "deal with it." They know better today. Nobody should EVER have to worry about bullying in school. If the bullies do that as adults, they will be arrested. If your school superintendant (yes, I'd jump up th e ladder) does nothing, I'd call the Dept. of Public Education in your state (yes, I'd jump all the way to the top). They WILL listen to you and help you. For one thing, they can find you a free parent advocate who will attend your meetings and IEP meetings with you. Since they know the laws of the state, the school will not be pleased to see an advocate with you because while the schools often snow US, they CAN'T snow an advocate who will often speak for you (you meet the advocate in advance). Also, if your school district is being abusive or breaking any rules the Dept. of Public Education WILL investigate. The school districts really freak out and get on their game then because funding for each district is decided by the Dept. of Public Education:winking:. The people in the Special Education Dept. of our Dept. of Public Ed are really nice and helpful and threw me a zillion resources as well as threatening to investigate our school district. Guess what? We got exactly what we wanted for our son the very next day. What a coincidence! I am on kid #5 and I've learned how to best deal with the school districts through having five kids. In short: 1[I][B]/Nice guys finish last[/B][/I]...parents who are intimidated or give in or believe everything they are told are a SD's dream and they will not treat you or your child better because you are a nice parent 2/The more involved you are with your child PLUS the more they know you hang around with knowledgeable sources...and can produce them...the more your child benefits. Forget the fear that if you make waves your child is picked on by the school. I've never ever heard of that happening. If anything, they bend over backward to please you if they know you aren't going to let them mistreat your child. I also got to know the teachers all very well, BUT as an equal and a peer. A teacher is not above me regarding my child. I'm above her/him. I know my child better. Also, remember that teachers and principals and all educators are not psychiatrists or psychologists. My best short advice is: [U][I][B]Don't be intimidated, never ACT intimidated, and go to the top for your child.[/B][/I][/U] Good luck, whatever you decide to do. This school district is playing games with you and if you're done playing games, I'd stop...your Dept. of Public Education is usually in the state capital. Ask for the Special Needs Dept. and talk to a representative. Hope it all works out for you :happy: [/QUOTE]
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