<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: Suz</div><div class="ubbcode-body">Jane, Rob and I just had a discussion this week about lying.
I think it's probably the 2,345,845,921,000 time we've had this same conversation :hammer: .
I ask why he lies and he says, "Because you'd get mad if I told you the truth."
To which, I reply as I always have, "I get even angrier when you lie to me- it's a double whammy."
Well, I'm sure you've had the same conversation.
He admits that he doesn't want a girlfriend to lie to him...or a friend...or a parent...
...but he seemingly doesn't get why, if that is true for him, he thinks I would want a liar for a son.
:grrr: :grrr: :grrr:
So I have basically given up ever believing him about anything. It makes me incredibly sad.
Suz </div></div>
Wow Suz. You sure you weren't listening in on my conversation with my son a few weeks ago? When I was reading the symptoms for ODD, one of them (I think) was "lying as a way of life". difficult child 2 lies, even when there's no reason to lie. Same thing - "you'd be even more angry if I told you the truth". Rubbish. I'd rather he tell me the truth and then give me the middle finger if I didn't like it, rather than lie.
Therapist says that, at least, it's a bit of a good sign that he lies. For my difficult child at least, doctor says it means that he still cares (somewhat)about what we think. I don't like it, but I guess bitter water is better than nothing when you're thirsty. I'd still rather have him defiant and truthful, though.
"My kid lies all the time" - seems like this is a rather large club for us parents, no?
Mikey
