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Hi All,

just checked in this morning--thanks for the replies!  I so appreciate the support.  My husband and I went out for drinks and dinner after work and then dancing, saw a bunch of friends.  It was fun and got my mind off difficult child for awhile.  I am still livid but I know that will die down and I will be able to quit thinking about her all the time.  I hate being consumed by thinking about her constantly! 


Today Molly is going to a day spa for half a day--that is her main birthday present--wish I was going too!  She told me about a week ago that for the past several yrs Emily (difficult child 1) has managed to ruin her birthday and I sure don't want that to happen this year.


I think in Emily's case the lies don't mean she still cares--my therapist thinks she may even have antisocial disorder.  I see it as a coping mechanism she came up with long ago--it is her way of trying to get her needs met and her needs must be met at any cost.  She couldn't risk me saying no to a simple, honest request for money.  She had to come up with a story she thought I'd buy and then she had to scramble because it wasn't working out right--she needed money, not a bus ticket.  I don't know why she thought I'd give her money, I have told her I will not give her money but I will help out with specific things she may need.   Guess she still thinks I am as dumb as I used to be but I am capable of learning!  Also, with her not living here anymore it is easier to see what she's doing.


Again, thanks for the support and I am so glad to know I am not alone!  I'll let you know her next attempts at manipulating me because I am sure this isn't the end--there will be a new angle today or tomorrow I would bet.


Hugs,

Jane


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