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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 653500" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>WearyMom, if you can sit tight and do nothing. Don't try to make anything happen. Wait. Lean into the waiting. Just let it wash over you and lean into it, don't harden up against it. </p><p></p><p>Make a plan about what you will do if she calls....early...or at the last minute...whenever. Will you take her? </p><p></p><p>I agree to take the money out of the picture. You know the worst---$750. If you can live with that (not like it, just live with it), take that off the table. </p><p></p><p>Don't start thinking about her "record" either. I used to lie awake at night and obsess about his record, oh, he'll never be able to get a job, college if he ever grows up, etc. It works out. All of it works out. </p><p></p><p>I so understand what you mean about being in the car with her, etc. When I drove my son to rehab in a city four hours away from here, I dreaded it so much I was nauseous. I concocted all kinds of schemes, should I get my best friend to drive here (from the same city) and ride with me to take him and then come back here? Someone else? Get him a bus ticket? On and on.</p><p></p><p>In the end I drove him, and he slept the whole way. </p><p></p><p>It just goes to show that worry is a fast getaway on a wooden horse. (My mother's gift to me, that saying). I used to worry about everything. It was my way of trying to control it.</p><p></p><p>Lean in. Take your time. Breathe. Just let the universe work and you sit back. After you make your plan---write it down if that helps you---it always helped me---then let it go. Just watch it drift off and turn into smoke.</p><p></p><p>Things have a way of working themselves out without our help. They really do. </p><p></p><p>Warm hugs. Keep posting. We're here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 653500, member: 17542"] WearyMom, if you can sit tight and do nothing. Don't try to make anything happen. Wait. Lean into the waiting. Just let it wash over you and lean into it, don't harden up against it. Make a plan about what you will do if she calls....early...or at the last minute...whenever. Will you take her? I agree to take the money out of the picture. You know the worst---$750. If you can live with that (not like it, just live with it), take that off the table. Don't start thinking about her "record" either. I used to lie awake at night and obsess about his record, oh, he'll never be able to get a job, college if he ever grows up, etc. It works out. All of it works out. I so understand what you mean about being in the car with her, etc. When I drove my son to rehab in a city four hours away from here, I dreaded it so much I was nauseous. I concocted all kinds of schemes, should I get my best friend to drive here (from the same city) and ride with me to take him and then come back here? Someone else? Get him a bus ticket? On and on. In the end I drove him, and he slept the whole way. It just goes to show that worry is a fast getaway on a wooden horse. (My mother's gift to me, that saying). I used to worry about everything. It was my way of trying to control it. Lean in. Take your time. Breathe. Just let the universe work and you sit back. After you make your plan---write it down if that helps you---it always helped me---then let it go. Just watch it drift off and turn into smoke. Things have a way of working themselves out without our help. They really do. Warm hugs. Keep posting. We're here. [/QUOTE]
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