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Need some advice on continued coping with enablers.
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<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 376324" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>Bean,</p><p>i have an enabling X, so I know what you mean. It's so hard to set boundaries in order to help your difficult child be independent and/or to feel consequences of their choices, only to have them turn to someone who will circumvent those boundaries.</p><p> </p><p>As hard as it is, we cannot control what others do. Enablers will enable, no matter how much "sense" we try to talk into them. Manipulaters will maniuplate. Users will use. All we can do is keep your boundaries intact and stay strong. </p><p> </p><p>It's ok to tell your mom that you disagree. Agree to disagree if you can, but try to stay close to her. I say this as a daughter whose mom is gone and as a mom whose daughter has - I hope temporarily - cut off contact. </p><p> </p><p>Your power extends only to the point that you can control yourself - and your reactions. As one who is struggling mightly with a very reckless difficult child and an enabling X, believe me, I know it's easier said than done.</p><p> </p><p>Hang on tight.</p><p>Dash</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 376324, member: 9175"] Bean, i have an enabling X, so I know what you mean. It's so hard to set boundaries in order to help your difficult child be independent and/or to feel consequences of their choices, only to have them turn to someone who will circumvent those boundaries. As hard as it is, we cannot control what others do. Enablers will enable, no matter how much "sense" we try to talk into them. Manipulaters will maniuplate. Users will use. All we can do is keep your boundaries intact and stay strong. It's ok to tell your mom that you disagree. Agree to disagree if you can, but try to stay close to her. I say this as a daughter whose mom is gone and as a mom whose daughter has - I hope temporarily - cut off contact. Your power extends only to the point that you can control yourself - and your reactions. As one who is struggling mightly with a very reckless difficult child and an enabling X, believe me, I know it's easier said than done. Hang on tight. Dash [/QUOTE]
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