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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 315939" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I've had a bit of trouble trying to word a reply.</p><p> </p><p>I know you're heart's in the right place. I know that it's evident Dad and SM's drinking has esculated..........But I dunno. You're dealing with (you admit) 2 self - centered kids.....one a teen (any they are already self serving) another an young adult. </p><p> </p><p>If it were me, I'd really have to have a major heart to heart with all the sibs.....seperately, in order to form a more accurate picture. Then I'd have to tempter that image of what's going on with what I knew and on past behavior of all involved. Then talk to your dad and sm.......and then make a decision.</p><p> </p><p>Not living in the home gives you a major handicap as to what is really going on. Could be sibs behaviors have esculated at home to the point where dad and sm are just barely coping......Could be the kids behavior stems from dad and sm behaviors changing.....Not so easy to tell from the outside looking in.</p><p> </p><p>Regardless.......I see it as being a nasty confrontation. Dad and SM are going to see it as kids against them.......and you already know Dad doesn't like to take responsibility for his actions......and they're going to be defensive about the drinking on top of it.</p><p> </p><p>Personally, if it were just me, unless I saw some really disturbing behavior that I knew would affect the kids still at home.........I'd keep out of it. Oh, maybe coach sibs on better ways to approach situations or deal with them......but yeah.</p><p> </p><p>Alcoholism can be an ugly thing. But as you already know, it's not something that is going to change until they want it to change.</p><p> </p><p>Just some things to think about. Tough position for you to be in as the oldest sib.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 315939, member: 84"] I've had a bit of trouble trying to word a reply. I know you're heart's in the right place. I know that it's evident Dad and SM's drinking has esculated..........But I dunno. You're dealing with (you admit) 2 self - centered kids.....one a teen (any they are already self serving) another an young adult. If it were me, I'd really have to have a major heart to heart with all the sibs.....seperately, in order to form a more accurate picture. Then I'd have to tempter that image of what's going on with what I knew and on past behavior of all involved. Then talk to your dad and sm.......and then make a decision. Not living in the home gives you a major handicap as to what is really going on. Could be sibs behaviors have esculated at home to the point where dad and sm are just barely coping......Could be the kids behavior stems from dad and sm behaviors changing.....Not so easy to tell from the outside looking in. Regardless.......I see it as being a nasty confrontation. Dad and SM are going to see it as kids against them.......and you already know Dad doesn't like to take responsibility for his actions......and they're going to be defensive about the drinking on top of it. Personally, if it were just me, unless I saw some really disturbing behavior that I knew would affect the kids still at home.........I'd keep out of it. Oh, maybe coach sibs on better ways to approach situations or deal with them......but yeah. Alcoholism can be an ugly thing. But as you already know, it's not something that is going to change until they want it to change. Just some things to think about. Tough position for you to be in as the oldest sib. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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