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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 204184" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>It really does hurt to know our kids want our help. The only way I got through it was to remind myself that the goal was to get the message across that her way was not working and if I caved in and let her come home even for a night, I was truly helping her think her way was working. Definitely not the goal I was seeking.</p><p> </p><p>Did I cry when I told her she couldn't come home? You better believe it! It tore me into a million pieces. She's now working and in an apartment with a roommate. She comes to visit (I think to get some sleep since her apartment seems to be party central) and things are relatively pleasant. She's not filling the dreams I had for her but she is succeeding on her terms this time around. I don't think this would be the case had I caved in.</p><p> </p><p>Fnd your goals for your son. Does letting him come home and sleep there for a night or two help or hinder those goals? Something tells me that it hinders, otherwise he wouldn't be dropping by after midnight for a place to crash -- he's getting to party and, when all else fails, comes to stay with mommy. Works well for him, but does it work well for what you want for him?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 204184, member: 3626"] It really does hurt to know our kids want our help. The only way I got through it was to remind myself that the goal was to get the message across that her way was not working and if I caved in and let her come home even for a night, I was truly helping her think her way was working. Definitely not the goal I was seeking. Did I cry when I told her she couldn't come home? You better believe it! It tore me into a million pieces. She's now working and in an apartment with a roommate. She comes to visit (I think to get some sleep since her apartment seems to be party central) and things are relatively pleasant. She's not filling the dreams I had for her but she is succeeding on her terms this time around. I don't think this would be the case had I caved in. Fnd your goals for your son. Does letting him come home and sleep there for a night or two help or hinder those goals? Something tells me that it hinders, otherwise he wouldn't be dropping by after midnight for a place to crash -- he's getting to party and, when all else fails, comes to stay with mommy. Works well for him, but does it work well for what you want for him? [/QUOTE]
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