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<blockquote data-quote="mtic" data-source="post: 679938" data-attributes="member: 18623"><p>Thank you all for your words of encouragement and for getting me to smile! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I sat in the parking lot for a good 10 minutes deciding if I wanted to go in. I finally decided I had to do it. I'm not a religious person at all so some of the God stuff and higher power stuff was strange to me, but the people's stories were helpful. I surprised myself and actually spoke about some of the problems I was having and a couple women came up to me at the end and said they were in my shoes too...one for a few months and another for many, many years. I felt an instant bond with these woman and I do plan on going back to see if it helps. One of them gave me a handout on detachment. I've been working on that for over a year now, and just when I think I have it mastered my son manages to break that down.</p><p></p><p>As a little update, my son violated his probation by moving to another state without telling his PO. He still had come back to check in every month but when it was found out he was living elsewhere he had a warrant out for his arrest. He did come back and turn himself in and was put in jail. Here's where I may have made a big mistake. I bailed him out. I felt that his crime (not telling them where he was living) didn't fit the punishment (jail until his hearing) as he was still checking in. Anyway, I actually took him back home. Needless to say, I could tell he was taking something again. Well, last Wednesday he calls from the ER saying he passed out in the bathroom at work. We get to the hospital and it was obvious he was on something although he insisted he didn't eat or drink anything all day long and that is why he passed out. I actually recorded his behavior. Slurred speech, bobbing head trying to stay awake, red eyes, itching, etc.</p><p></p><p>The ER docs couldn't tell us anything as my son is an adult. I feel the medical profession here must drop the ball all the time because of stupid privacy laws. They basically sobered him up and sent him on his way. </p><p></p><p>When he got home, we told my son we wanted to see his lab results to which he consented. </p><p></p><p>We finally got the toxicology results from the ER yesterday. They showed 3 things in his system...basically uppers, downers, and pain medications. Last night I showed him the results and the video. He seemed disturbed by the video and swore he wanted to get help and go to meetings. Today he wakes up in a mood and heads to work without saying much, so I'm not sure if he's serious about changing. That's why I decided to find a meeting. </p><p></p><p>His court date is March 18. I figured I'd let him live here until then to make sure he goes to court, but after that I'm not sure what to do. I feel like all the progress I made in detaching over the last year has gone out the window and I'm back at square one. I just feel defeated and hopeless.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mtic, post: 679938, member: 18623"] Thank you all for your words of encouragement and for getting me to smile! :) I sat in the parking lot for a good 10 minutes deciding if I wanted to go in. I finally decided I had to do it. I'm not a religious person at all so some of the God stuff and higher power stuff was strange to me, but the people's stories were helpful. I surprised myself and actually spoke about some of the problems I was having and a couple women came up to me at the end and said they were in my shoes too...one for a few months and another for many, many years. I felt an instant bond with these woman and I do plan on going back to see if it helps. One of them gave me a handout on detachment. I've been working on that for over a year now, and just when I think I have it mastered my son manages to break that down. As a little update, my son violated his probation by moving to another state without telling his PO. He still had come back to check in every month but when it was found out he was living elsewhere he had a warrant out for his arrest. He did come back and turn himself in and was put in jail. Here's where I may have made a big mistake. I bailed him out. I felt that his crime (not telling them where he was living) didn't fit the punishment (jail until his hearing) as he was still checking in. Anyway, I actually took him back home. Needless to say, I could tell he was taking something again. Well, last Wednesday he calls from the ER saying he passed out in the bathroom at work. We get to the hospital and it was obvious he was on something although he insisted he didn't eat or drink anything all day long and that is why he passed out. I actually recorded his behavior. Slurred speech, bobbing head trying to stay awake, red eyes, itching, etc. The ER docs couldn't tell us anything as my son is an adult. I feel the medical profession here must drop the ball all the time because of stupid privacy laws. They basically sobered him up and sent him on his way. When he got home, we told my son we wanted to see his lab results to which he consented. We finally got the toxicology results from the ER yesterday. They showed 3 things in his system...basically uppers, downers, and pain medications. Last night I showed him the results and the video. He seemed disturbed by the video and swore he wanted to get help and go to meetings. Today he wakes up in a mood and heads to work without saying much, so I'm not sure if he's serious about changing. That's why I decided to find a meeting. His court date is March 18. I figured I'd let him live here until then to make sure he goes to court, but after that I'm not sure what to do. I feel like all the progress I made in detaching over the last year has gone out the window and I'm back at square one. I just feel defeated and hopeless. [/QUOTE]
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