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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 546090" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>While you do need to think about the safety of your newer family, don't be deluded about foster care. I did it for a while and quit because I felt it was so bad for the kids. First of all, voluntary or not, the state takes control of your child once you sign that child into care. Make no mistake about that...you get the state involved and they make the calls. It's not supposed to be that way, but it is. </p><p></p><p>Also, the foster parents probably have no more training raising children than the average person. I know I didn't get the instruction I needed and we begged for it, but it never happened. Many foster parents are also in it for the money. It can pay up to $1500 a month (tax free and it doesn't count as income) in some states. I met many foster parents like that. They would take any kid just to get more money. Some homes are overcrowded. </p><p></p><p>Myself, I would never put my child in foster care. I don't like most residential treatment centers either if they are run by the state. I saw a few foster kids go into them and we visited a nd you could hear kids screaming and beefy security guards coming to put holds on them and put them in isolation. Gave me the creeps, some of the kids were sooooooo young. However, I'm sure some residential treatment centers are good and if you have the $$$ and can look around and visit in my opinion it's a better option than foster care. </p><p></p><p>Good luck, regardless of what you decide to do. Is there another relative who can try to care for him and get him help? Maybe a relative who has no young children that he may hurt?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 546090, member: 1550"] While you do need to think about the safety of your newer family, don't be deluded about foster care. I did it for a while and quit because I felt it was so bad for the kids. First of all, voluntary or not, the state takes control of your child once you sign that child into care. Make no mistake about that...you get the state involved and they make the calls. It's not supposed to be that way, but it is. Also, the foster parents probably have no more training raising children than the average person. I know I didn't get the instruction I needed and we begged for it, but it never happened. Many foster parents are also in it for the money. It can pay up to $1500 a month (tax free and it doesn't count as income) in some states. I met many foster parents like that. They would take any kid just to get more money. Some homes are overcrowded. Myself, I would never put my child in foster care. I don't like most residential treatment centers either if they are run by the state. I saw a few foster kids go into them and we visited a nd you could hear kids screaming and beefy security guards coming to put holds on them and put them in isolation. Gave me the creeps, some of the kids were sooooooo young. However, I'm sure some residential treatment centers are good and if you have the $$$ and can look around and visit in my opinion it's a better option than foster care. Good luck, regardless of what you decide to do. Is there another relative who can try to care for him and get him help? Maybe a relative who has no young children that he may hurt? [/QUOTE]
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