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<blockquote data-quote="Blueknight" data-source="post: 546094" data-attributes="member: 15054"><p>Thanks for the quick replies! </p><p></p><p>TerryJ: My son comes out for a 2-3 week visit every summer. Sometimes, he has also been sent out during a holiday visit. I have noticed his behavior on several occasions, however it has never been as severe as it apparently it with his mother. She has primary custody but medical/school rights are split. Part of my problem is that while I feel for her, I think his mother is having a hard time in life and isn't able to cope well. In fact, I just had him out for a visit a few weeks ago and he has only been home for about two weeks when she had another crisis moment. I've spoken to both her's and my son's therapist about the issues, but I have to say it is EXTREMELY frustrating to be on the end of a phone trying to help a situation states away. </p><p></p><p>Midwestmom- Unfortunately, where he can stay is part of the issue for me. I have my own worry problems<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> and I always look to the worst case situation. Because of that, I contacted the local DSS and asked them what I should do if she just dropped my son off at my house. They basically said I could call them to have wrap-around type services but that I'm basically stuck. While this is very difficult to say - I honestly feel that I have to choose the lesser of two evils. Try and help my son but put my other kids at risk or basically try and place my son in foster treatment. A bit of background that I left out: Two summers ago my son came out for his visit. He was 9 at the time. We found at that he made sexual contact with my niece who was 3 at the time. This obviously caused a huge roar in the family and now, it splits the family apart every time he comes for a visit. Until that happened, the best person to watch him was my mother. But now, she is aging and it kills her to think about other family members alienating her other grandchildren for their safety. </p><p></p><p>This is where I run into problems, trying to plan for the worst. I don't know what to do if she just dropped him off. I want her to get what help she needs, him to get medications or the situation balanced out, and I really believe it is best that he continues to live in California at this time. To my knowledge, she has not included Social Services in her support team. She has been relying on the therapist, special school therapist, school district, and a church group. If DSS is anything in California like it is in Colorado then that would be a first stop for help for me. As far as voluntary placement, I'm just inquiring about it because I want to help his mother in finding help/making choices to benefit my son. Since there are so many issues for him with me, I just want to know what options would be available in worst case situations.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blueknight, post: 546094, member: 15054"] Thanks for the quick replies! TerryJ: My son comes out for a 2-3 week visit every summer. Sometimes, he has also been sent out during a holiday visit. I have noticed his behavior on several occasions, however it has never been as severe as it apparently it with his mother. She has primary custody but medical/school rights are split. Part of my problem is that while I feel for her, I think his mother is having a hard time in life and isn't able to cope well. In fact, I just had him out for a visit a few weeks ago and he has only been home for about two weeks when she had another crisis moment. I've spoken to both her's and my son's therapist about the issues, but I have to say it is EXTREMELY frustrating to be on the end of a phone trying to help a situation states away. Midwestmom- Unfortunately, where he can stay is part of the issue for me. I have my own worry problems;) and I always look to the worst case situation. Because of that, I contacted the local DSS and asked them what I should do if she just dropped my son off at my house. They basically said I could call them to have wrap-around type services but that I'm basically stuck. While this is very difficult to say - I honestly feel that I have to choose the lesser of two evils. Try and help my son but put my other kids at risk or basically try and place my son in foster treatment. A bit of background that I left out: Two summers ago my son came out for his visit. He was 9 at the time. We found at that he made sexual contact with my niece who was 3 at the time. This obviously caused a huge roar in the family and now, it splits the family apart every time he comes for a visit. Until that happened, the best person to watch him was my mother. But now, she is aging and it kills her to think about other family members alienating her other grandchildren for their safety. This is where I run into problems, trying to plan for the worst. I don't know what to do if she just dropped him off. I want her to get what help she needs, him to get medications or the situation balanced out, and I really believe it is best that he continues to live in California at this time. To my knowledge, she has not included Social Services in her support team. She has been relying on the therapist, special school therapist, school district, and a church group. If DSS is anything in California like it is in Colorado then that would be a first stop for help for me. As far as voluntary placement, I'm just inquiring about it because I want to help his mother in finding help/making choices to benefit my son. Since there are so many issues for him with me, I just want to know what options would be available in worst case situations. [/QUOTE]
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