Zerissenheit, you chose a perfect name for your mommy heart! Our daughter, who spent her first 9 months in a Russian orphanage, was a secret cutter. After she opened her arm so deeply that she needed 12 stitches, she could no longer hide it. She spent 9 days in a psychiatric unit. We were so shocked, it still makes me sick to remember those days. When she came home we had our son take her door off the hinges so that we could monitor her actions. I had to check her body daily to make sure she wasn't doing it anymore. That was 3 years ago. I still haven't been able to get the blood stains out of her mattress. Many hugs coming your way. One day this will be in the past and your family pain will be lighter.