Oh my goodness. I do something similar to this. Perhaps we are prone to this as mother’s with these “special” kids. Our daughter has a mental illness diagnosis and fortunately I have learned not to do it unless we are talking about something truly serious and even then, I am not sure it’s wise. Fir very serious things....it’s still a maybe. Still best not to. Our son has lessor cincerns and manages to function very well. Lately, I’ve been doing these types of things with him and it makes things worse. It might make him think he is not capable, I don’t trust him or I’m simply meddling. It’s best they make their own mistakes and suffer their own consequences. And don’t see you as someone who interferes. Plus, absences usually makes the heart grow fonder. You don’t have a lot of choice in this part of it. It kind of stinks given your generosity. I see that. I hear other parents if adult kids talking about this. But , little to nothing you can do about it. Don’t put up with any actual straight out disrespect ..but try not to worry about these things especially since they may or may not be accurate or completely accurate. I know it’s hard. I was very close to my mother. I’m seeing less if that ...it’s just strange.
