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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 713690" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>At 12, you don't depend on "whether he can stop", YOU put a stop to it. NO MONEY! of any kind. NO INTERNET OF ANY KIND! That includes no phone, no iPod or similar device, no tablet, no nothing. Strip his room to the minimum required by law: a mattress on the floor, a pillow, a set of sheets, sufficient blankets to keep him warm. 7 outfits that YOU choose (not height of coolness), 7 sets of underwear and pairs of socks. Shoes that you choose. If there are entertainment devices such as a TV, Stereo, etc., remove them! A former board owner used to refer to "do to get". If he wants more than this, he has to earn it with good behavior, good schoolwork, and participation in supporting and contributing to the family unit.</p><p></p><p>Also, another thing. Meals: what you choose to serve him. 3 meals and 2 snacks. Plain, nutritious food. No treats. No special dishes. Do to get. </p><p></p><p>It is illegal for someone under the age of 18 to buy or sell anything on e-Bay. Inform e-Bay that he is under age and demand that the accounts be closed. Same goes for PayPal. If your son refuses, or closes the accounts and reopens them, you might have to consider pressing fraud charges against him. Legally, he can't have a PayPal account, just as at his age, he cannot have a bank account without an adult co-signer.</p><p></p><p>Also, secure your credit cards, and immediately go through your banking records. Your kid is heading down a bad road, and you need to crack down and crack down hard.</p><p></p><p>He will be extremely angry when he comes home to a stripped room. If he threatens violence, becomes violent, or damages property, call the police and press charges.</p><p></p><p>The fact that he is selling "vapes", when he is not old enough to purchase them, let alone the fact that he is selling them to minors. (I'm a vaper and this sort of thing is what we adult vapers are fighting against as it is what the gov't is using as one of the rallying cries to make vaping illegal) Also, nicotine use in a 12-year old is bad for a developing brain and is likely self-medication of an executive function disorder or ADHD (Nicotine helps with concentration, memory and focus), is a whole 'nother criminal can of worms.</p><p></p><p>I suspect there is other drug use going on as well, based on the stealing money from you, his defrauding others, etc.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 713690, member: 1963"] At 12, you don't depend on "whether he can stop", YOU put a stop to it. NO MONEY! of any kind. NO INTERNET OF ANY KIND! That includes no phone, no iPod or similar device, no tablet, no nothing. Strip his room to the minimum required by law: a mattress on the floor, a pillow, a set of sheets, sufficient blankets to keep him warm. 7 outfits that YOU choose (not height of coolness), 7 sets of underwear and pairs of socks. Shoes that you choose. If there are entertainment devices such as a TV, Stereo, etc., remove them! A former board owner used to refer to "do to get". If he wants more than this, he has to earn it with good behavior, good schoolwork, and participation in supporting and contributing to the family unit. Also, another thing. Meals: what you choose to serve him. 3 meals and 2 snacks. Plain, nutritious food. No treats. No special dishes. Do to get. It is illegal for someone under the age of 18 to buy or sell anything on e-Bay. Inform e-Bay that he is under age and demand that the accounts be closed. Same goes for PayPal. If your son refuses, or closes the accounts and reopens them, you might have to consider pressing fraud charges against him. Legally, he can't have a PayPal account, just as at his age, he cannot have a bank account without an adult co-signer. Also, secure your credit cards, and immediately go through your banking records. Your kid is heading down a bad road, and you need to crack down and crack down hard. He will be extremely angry when he comes home to a stripped room. If he threatens violence, becomes violent, or damages property, call the police and press charges. The fact that he is selling "vapes", when he is not old enough to purchase them, let alone the fact that he is selling them to minors. (I'm a vaper and this sort of thing is what we adult vapers are fighting against as it is what the gov't is using as one of the rallying cries to make vaping illegal) Also, nicotine use in a 12-year old is bad for a developing brain and is likely self-medication of an executive function disorder or ADHD (Nicotine helps with concentration, memory and focus), is a whole 'nother criminal can of worms. I suspect there is other drug use going on as well, based on the stealing money from you, his defrauding others, etc. [/QUOTE]
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