your son's PO is a woman. bad thing. she is problem charmed by him. ant can do that.
your son has no one making him toe the line. he is abusing your roof by messing it up. so make a firm rule and consequence: if you do this then this will happen.
then follow thru. it helps when they know the consequences.
ant never complied but I felt less guilt when I at least had told him what to expect from me.
tell your son today that tomorrow you will:
tie the dog outside and hose the room down. bag up your son's stuff and put it in the basement, and take the door off his bedroom so you can see if it is kept clean.
let the judge handle the other stuff
decide for yourself what you can and cannot live with. I will not let my sons or anyone else leave a mess. this is my home. dang it.
