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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 692438" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Looks like I posted two responses here. Ha ha sorry. I'll keep both as maybe there are new thoughts in THIS response lol. Take what you like and leave the rest in every response. We are just idea givers.</p><p></p><p>'m glad your husband gets it now. You ARE right in my opinion. I can not figure out why so many parents think their kids should get free cars, especially nice ones, and not make them learn responsibility either by paying their own car insurance/gas. They don't need us to buy them such expensive and dangerous toys and then also pick up the cars tab. A car is a guided missile in the hands of a disturbed, drug using teen.</p><p></p><p>It especially puzzles me when a parent knows the kid is on drugs, even pot. Pot impedes coordination and our reflexes and is often mixed with other drugs and in my opinion it's not okay to drive on pot hope we start doing tough pot driving laws. As it becomes more and more legal, I think it will happen. And pot stays in one's system for a long time, continuing to impede the driver. Vent over. I think your husband was silly to get him a car with what he knows. Who paid for his car accidents? Sell the car.</p><p></p><p>when I caught my daughter with any drugs, including cigarettes (no smoking anything in our house plus she was underage) we threw it out. One time we called the cops, hoping to scare her. It didn't work, but she eventually quit at nineteen saying, "it's too hard to use drugs." Twelve years later, her life is very productive and normal. We used tough love. For her it worked really well. She didn't get a thing from us. We have an excellent relationship with her, SO and grandbaby. Don't be afraid to do the right thing. My daughter was angry then, but is grateful now.</p><p></p><p>Sounds like you two have an enduring relationship (you and hub). Maybe therapy on how to deal with Son could help if you can find a good therapist. Your son no longer needs to live with you if he refuses to respect your rules. It is your home and sanctuary. Your home/your rules.</p><p></p><p>Sending hugs and good luck vibes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 692438, member: 1550"] Looks like I posted two responses here. Ha ha sorry. I'll keep both as maybe there are new thoughts in THIS response lol. Take what you like and leave the rest in every response. We are just idea givers. 'm glad your husband gets it now. You ARE right in my opinion. I can not figure out why so many parents think their kids should get free cars, especially nice ones, and not make them learn responsibility either by paying their own car insurance/gas. They don't need us to buy them such expensive and dangerous toys and then also pick up the cars tab. A car is a guided missile in the hands of a disturbed, drug using teen. It especially puzzles me when a parent knows the kid is on drugs, even pot. Pot impedes coordination and our reflexes and is often mixed with other drugs and in my opinion it's not okay to drive on pot hope we start doing tough pot driving laws. As it becomes more and more legal, I think it will happen. And pot stays in one's system for a long time, continuing to impede the driver. Vent over. I think your husband was silly to get him a car with what he knows. Who paid for his car accidents? Sell the car. when I caught my daughter with any drugs, including cigarettes (no smoking anything in our house plus she was underage) we threw it out. One time we called the cops, hoping to scare her. It didn't work, but she eventually quit at nineteen saying, "it's too hard to use drugs." Twelve years later, her life is very productive and normal. We used tough love. For her it worked really well. She didn't get a thing from us. We have an excellent relationship with her, SO and grandbaby. Don't be afraid to do the right thing. My daughter was angry then, but is grateful now. Sounds like you two have an enduring relationship (you and hub). Maybe therapy on how to deal with Son could help if you can find a good therapist. Your son no longer needs to live with you if he refuses to respect your rules. It is your home and sanctuary. Your home/your rules. Sending hugs and good luck vibes. [/QUOTE]
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