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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 431316" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I believe also that it is an olive branch. Her feelings are just as valid as yours and she acknowledged that by choosing the less offensive way out for her, that was to delete you from FB. It kept her from feeling being put in the middle. Yes, it would have been easier for you if she came forward at the time to assure you that she did understand that you were having troubles with her parents but she had a hard time hearing about it (like she is doing now). It would have been easier for you if she could have at that time said she was sorry you were having problems, that she didn't want to add to it, and that she still cared about you and your family. However, her feelings may have been running a little more intense at that time also and the pressures the Holidays add to keep peace in the family, she may have felt torn to lean closer to her parents. </p><p> </p><p>Life has a way of barreling forward at a fast pace. Since you have received an e-mail from her, I would think that she has been bothered by this the entire Winter. She doesn't know how to reconnect. I would think she probably put a lot of thought into what to write so as not to offend you. I think she did a good job.</p><p> </p><p>I like Shari's idea of a Christmas Card type letter and everyone's else's thoughts on thread forward carefully just in case. "So good to hear from you! The months are flying past! We have been busy with ..............(list of the good things). Hope all is well for you!" </p><p> </p><p>If this was a person you had or could have a good relationship with, give her the benefit of the doubt. Follow your heart in how quickly to go forward and how far to open the door while the ball is in your court.</p><p> </p><p>I hope it works out well for your and you are able to find a friend in her if even at the smallest level. Being on good terms with relatives makes for many sad events easier.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 431316, member: 5096"] I believe also that it is an olive branch. Her feelings are just as valid as yours and she acknowledged that by choosing the less offensive way out for her, that was to delete you from FB. It kept her from feeling being put in the middle. Yes, it would have been easier for you if she came forward at the time to assure you that she did understand that you were having troubles with her parents but she had a hard time hearing about it (like she is doing now). It would have been easier for you if she could have at that time said she was sorry you were having problems, that she didn't want to add to it, and that she still cared about you and your family. However, her feelings may have been running a little more intense at that time also and the pressures the Holidays add to keep peace in the family, she may have felt torn to lean closer to her parents. Life has a way of barreling forward at a fast pace. Since you have received an e-mail from her, I would think that she has been bothered by this the entire Winter. She doesn't know how to reconnect. I would think she probably put a lot of thought into what to write so as not to offend you. I think she did a good job. I like Shari's idea of a Christmas Card type letter and everyone's else's thoughts on thread forward carefully just in case. "So good to hear from you! The months are flying past! We have been busy with ..............(list of the good things). Hope all is well for you!" If this was a person you had or could have a good relationship with, give her the benefit of the doubt. Follow your heart in how quickly to go forward and how far to open the door while the ball is in your court. I hope it works out well for your and you are able to find a friend in her if even at the smallest level. Being on good terms with relatives makes for many sad events easier. [/QUOTE]
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