Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Need you all again....
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 381383" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>*********** It is amazing how different the view is from another (healthier) perspective. I thank you. ************</p><p></p><p>Thanks so much, to each and every one who responded to my call for help. I go forth with loins well girded and an attitude much improved! I will post the appropriate responses next to my phone (just like I used to have to do in the old days).</p><p></p><p>As for the research I was doing regarding surviving the emotional toll taken by having been verbally abused, this is what I found:</p><p></p><p>1) Start where you are NOW. Remember one thing that used to be a source of pride and personal nourishment. Bring that back into your daily routine.</p><p></p><p>2) When you hear echoes of the words or phrases used by the abuser, label these things the voice of personal disgust (as we do internalize these things) and ask: Is this true? More often than not, we will find that there is nothing in the verbally abusive statement to create truth out of. That is part of why verbal abuse is so shocking. It seems to be a senselessly violent occurrence. WE MAKE SENSE OF IT WITH OUR OWN THOUGHTS.</p><p></p><p>3) And finally, this most helpful action we can take: "Come to know the space between your thoughts where all is well. Let yourself bask in that lingering, full sensation. This will be your easiest and also most challenging mission."</p><p></p><p>I did try to do this. And, between each racing, self condemnatory thought, I did find a space where there was quiet, and where all was well. The effects of allowing myself to linger there (instead of beating myself up because my own child said horrible things to me) was incredibly healing.</p><p></p><p>Again, thank you to each of you. I think I am back on the right track, now.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 381383, member: 3353"] *********** It is amazing how different the view is from another (healthier) perspective. I thank you. ************ Thanks so much, to each and every one who responded to my call for help. I go forth with loins well girded and an attitude much improved! I will post the appropriate responses next to my phone (just like I used to have to do in the old days). As for the research I was doing regarding surviving the emotional toll taken by having been verbally abused, this is what I found: 1) Start where you are NOW. Remember one thing that used to be a source of pride and personal nourishment. Bring that back into your daily routine. 2) When you hear echoes of the words or phrases used by the abuser, label these things the voice of personal disgust (as we do internalize these things) and ask: Is this true? More often than not, we will find that there is nothing in the verbally abusive statement to create truth out of. That is part of why verbal abuse is so shocking. It seems to be a senselessly violent occurrence. WE MAKE SENSE OF IT WITH OUR OWN THOUGHTS. 3) And finally, this most helpful action we can take: "Come to know the space between your thoughts where all is well. Let yourself bask in that lingering, full sensation. This will be your easiest and also most challenging mission." I did try to do this. And, between each racing, self condemnatory thought, I did find a space where there was quiet, and where all was well. The effects of allowing myself to linger there (instead of beating myself up because my own child said horrible things to me) was incredibly healing. Again, thank you to each of you. I think I am back on the right track, now. Barbara [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Need you all again....
Top