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<blockquote data-quote="Mom2oddson" data-source="post: 396529" data-attributes="member: 65"><p>I agree with everyone else. Don't go! </p><p></p><p>The first time you don't go to an obligatory visit - It will be very painful and there will be tons of emotional guilt. husband & I stood up for ourselves for the first time last Christmas. I was a ball of raw nerves and husband was throwing up for a good part of Christmas. But we did it!! And, guess what? We survived! It didn't kill us. It didn't cause the world to stop spinning. And This Year? It is SO much easier! We didn't even call to say we weren't coming and husband is having no problems not picking up the phone when she calls. And we are looking forward to Christmas this year (first time EVER!)</p><p></p><p>My BFF told me last year that the first time is the hardest. Her husband was an alcoholic, the first time she kicked him out of the car - she cried all the way home and felt horrible. Each time after that, it got easier. And it will get easier for you too. </p><p></p><p>Would it be so terrible for you and your kids if you didn't go over there? What would you be missing out on? A few gifts? - - is a few bobbles worth the pain that you are going through? I suspect that there is fear that Mom and difficult child-Bro will show up at your door if you don't come by. Keep your doors locked and if they show up - call the cops. They are unwelcomed guests! </p><p></p><p>Be strong. I know, easier said then done! But you are a wonderful person and you deserve the BEST!!! You don't deserve a Christmas full of fear and nightmares! It's not right! And I'll tell you that my Warrior Mom blood is boiling wanting to protect you! No one should be going through what you are going through. Don't feel obligated to be abused to protect your mother's feelings. She never protected you - why should you protect her feelings? (Sorry if I'm being too rough with you...)</p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="color: darkorchid">{{{Many Hugs}}}</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mom2oddson, post: 396529, member: 65"] I agree with everyone else. Don't go! The first time you don't go to an obligatory visit - It will be very painful and there will be tons of emotional guilt. husband & I stood up for ourselves for the first time last Christmas. I was a ball of raw nerves and husband was throwing up for a good part of Christmas. But we did it!! And, guess what? We survived! It didn't kill us. It didn't cause the world to stop spinning. And This Year? It is SO much easier! We didn't even call to say we weren't coming and husband is having no problems not picking up the phone when she calls. And we are looking forward to Christmas this year (first time EVER!) My BFF told me last year that the first time is the hardest. Her husband was an alcoholic, the first time she kicked him out of the car - she cried all the way home and felt horrible. Each time after that, it got easier. And it will get easier for you too. Would it be so terrible for you and your kids if you didn't go over there? What would you be missing out on? A few gifts? - - is a few bobbles worth the pain that you are going through? I suspect that there is fear that Mom and difficult child-Bro will show up at your door if you don't come by. Keep your doors locked and if they show up - call the cops. They are unwelcomed guests! Be strong. I know, easier said then done! But you are a wonderful person and you deserve the BEST!!! You don't deserve a Christmas full of fear and nightmares! It's not right! And I'll tell you that my Warrior Mom blood is boiling wanting to protect you! No one should be going through what you are going through. Don't feel obligated to be abused to protect your mother's feelings. She never protected you - why should you protect her feelings? (Sorry if I'm being too rough with you...) [SIZE="5"][COLOR="darkorchid"]{{{Many Hugs}}}[/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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