Thank you so much for replies. What should I be seeing at a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that would mean that it is a positive step towards helping T learn skills to cope and help us to learn skills to help him and us as well? I was comfortable at the acute care center, he had some new found coping skills. This place is questionable right now, but it's still early. I just don't want to leave him there to rot if I can bring him home and take advantage of the calm that seems to be had through the medications.
Is it normal to be looking for reasons why things are what they are and to mourn what use to be? This was all pretty sudden, not a real slow build up but a cannon ball into the deep end of the pool kind of things. Honestly, there have been little things here and there to let us know that things were never going to be just easy but never ever was this even in my vision.