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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 232826" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>If you can, I would confirm what was said with husband, write it down, double-check with him - and then go in to talk to the school. Gently, at first. Because the first thing they will try is, "Oh, husband must have misunderstood. We just said we would work towards this, as a goal, it will take more time to set this up."</p><p></p><p>If they say this, ask thme how long they expect to take, to have it in place; also ask what the procedure is to be in the meantiime. Then go back to husband, with your WRITTEN notes, and get his feedback. it's a pain having to do it this way, but if husband attended the meeting it shows he is at least prepared to listen when someone says there sia problem.</p><p></p><p>It really does sound like you are in avery difficult positionn but still trynig to do the best you can.</p><p></p><p>The more you leave with husband Occupational Therapist (OT) make the decisions, the more he has to accept tere is a problem. By you having been doing the lion's share of it all for so long, you've shielded husband from the responsibility as well as the experience. He now needs to be the decision-maker 9at least until he sees the light) so unfortunately, you have to keep doing it this way.</p><p></p><p>But it does sound like you're making good progress towards getting husband on board, getting difficult child the help and extricating yourself from Wicked Stepmother role.</p><p></p><p>Keep it up!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 232826, member: 1991"] If you can, I would confirm what was said with husband, write it down, double-check with him - and then go in to talk to the school. Gently, at first. Because the first thing they will try is, "Oh, husband must have misunderstood. We just said we would work towards this, as a goal, it will take more time to set this up." If they say this, ask thme how long they expect to take, to have it in place; also ask what the procedure is to be in the meantiime. Then go back to husband, with your WRITTEN notes, and get his feedback. it's a pain having to do it this way, but if husband attended the meeting it shows he is at least prepared to listen when someone says there sia problem. It really does sound like you are in avery difficult positionn but still trynig to do the best you can. The more you leave with husband Occupational Therapist (OT) make the decisions, the more he has to accept tere is a problem. By you having been doing the lion's share of it all for so long, you've shielded husband from the responsibility as well as the experience. He now needs to be the decision-maker 9at least until he sees the light) so unfortunately, you have to keep doing it this way. But it does sound like you're making good progress towards getting husband on board, getting difficult child the help and extricating yourself from Wicked Stepmother role. Keep it up! Marg [/QUOTE]
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