Thank you Kathy. I am just so lost right now. I should have mentioned I suppose, that I have a law degree and my husband has a bachelors. He got his degree after we married, taking on-line and night classes while working full time. We're both civil servants, me in Social Services and my husband with Corrections. God knows we're law abiding people, but we also know we can't force anyone else to be. I'm actually not worried about personal liability for any car accidents. He's over 18 and the car is insured with him as the primary driver. It would be a serious stretch to find us liable, at least in my state. I do find it hard to believe he's buying pot with as little income as he has. His bank account is linked to ours so I can see where he spends his money and while he does tend to get $10 or $20 cash now and then, he spends it mostly at gas stations, fast food places and discount cigarette shops. But I am equally sure he finds a way. Maybe I'm just in denial.
Right now we're just kind of in limbo. His money is in our bank account because when he was home and we found out about the other stolen items he endorsed it over to me. I told him if he wanted to go to summer school, there was his tuition, if he wanted to move to an apartment 2nd year, there was the deposits, but of course none of that is likely now. We're not looking forward to Wednesday when he comes home for the holiday. Which is just sad.
Oh, and sorry, I apparently used a word I shouldn't have. I thought it was tame enough to get through. I'll used ticked off from now on. 
