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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 374449" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>I am sorry to hear about your awful justice system experience. </p><p> </p><p>I know this won't offer any comfort to you but I have learned many moons ago that he justice system is rarely just or merciful. Though you may find the occasional person who works under it that isn't jaded or filled with preconcieved notions it is rare. I have persoanlly experienced through my own cases and those of people close to me that people often get off for things they did do for ridiculous reasons and others get in trouble when they have definitive proof of innocence. </p><p> </p><p>There is rarely any reasoning with the type of judge who you dealt with. It isn't fair, it hoovers and unless you have oodles of money for an attorney there is nothing you can do about it. The scales of justice are very subjective and the odds of success are similar to the roll of dice even if you are right.</p><p> </p><p>You didn't do anything wrong, you got railroaded. individuals can file motions without an attorney, you could TRY to be seen by a different judge. It is also a protracted hassle that may or may not go well just to prove something no one in the system ultimately cares about. </p><p> </p><p>You the parent should never be put on trial for what your almost adult difficult child did. You can be held liable for neglect or for restitution or fines but you didn't steal the credit card now did you? You didn't fail him, he failed himself.</p><p> </p><p>I am and have always been a person who speaks out first and fights the longest when things seem unfair. So I don't say this lightly...the easiest thing to sometimes do when it comes to governmental authority and red tape is to be quiet and do as you are told. When it is all said and done the classes and counseling will pass by much quicker than trying to unravel the mess. In the meantime you can have the counselor validate your point that you did what you could.</p><p> </p><p>I feel dirty for even suggesting that because it goes against my principles but I also learned that lesson at great personal expense, tons of stress and never did anything more than spin my wheels. </p><p> </p><p>We lock up all of our sensitive info at home, lock up food too. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /> Some days I count down until my difficult child is 18.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 374449, member: 8617"] I am sorry to hear about your awful justice system experience. I know this won't offer any comfort to you but I have learned many moons ago that he justice system is rarely just or merciful. Though you may find the occasional person who works under it that isn't jaded or filled with preconcieved notions it is rare. I have persoanlly experienced through my own cases and those of people close to me that people often get off for things they did do for ridiculous reasons and others get in trouble when they have definitive proof of innocence. There is rarely any reasoning with the type of judge who you dealt with. It isn't fair, it hoovers and unless you have oodles of money for an attorney there is nothing you can do about it. The scales of justice are very subjective and the odds of success are similar to the roll of dice even if you are right. You didn't do anything wrong, you got railroaded. individuals can file motions without an attorney, you could TRY to be seen by a different judge. It is also a protracted hassle that may or may not go well just to prove something no one in the system ultimately cares about. You the parent should never be put on trial for what your almost adult difficult child did. You can be held liable for neglect or for restitution or fines but you didn't steal the credit card now did you? You didn't fail him, he failed himself. I am and have always been a person who speaks out first and fights the longest when things seem unfair. So I don't say this lightly...the easiest thing to sometimes do when it comes to governmental authority and red tape is to be quiet and do as you are told. When it is all said and done the classes and counseling will pass by much quicker than trying to unravel the mess. In the meantime you can have the counselor validate your point that you did what you could. I feel dirty for even suggesting that because it goes against my principles but I also learned that lesson at great personal expense, tons of stress and never did anything more than spin my wheels. We lock up all of our sensitive info at home, lock up food too. :angry: Some days I count down until my difficult child is 18. [/QUOTE]
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