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<blockquote data-quote="ToriB923" data-source="post: 205214" data-attributes="member: 6176"><p>My son is 11 and was finally diagnoised with ODD after two years of 'could be this...could be that...'. He does have a bi-lateral hearing loss 35dB and that has caused delays, along with a delay in small motor development, which causes MAJOR anxiety anytime he's to write as other children - one in particular who notifies others of some children's shortcomings...have made fun of him 'for writing like your in kindergarten'. His BioDad is long gone, has step-dad for last 9.5 yrs and two step-sisters 20/18. </p><p></p><p>Situation at home has gone from kinda difficult to BAD. My son chooses not to work at school, and comes home with piles of homework because of that choice. So at home, we do the math - not too much of a fight, reading...not too much of a fight and then comes writing....there starts the escalation. He attempts to cause issue so he can get out of doing things - "if I do 'a' behavior, 'b' outcome gets me out of having to do the work'. Manipulation King if there ever was one. Well at home, I sit calmly 80% of the time while he freaks out and rants. If I don't react, he'll escalate to continue to get me to 'play into' whatever he's feeling or being. If I acknowledge, he continues to escalate. if I don't he continues to escalate or just shut down. Have had to physcially restrain him when the escalations go to that level - this occurs 1-3 x per week..... My husband is at his wits end - his children were perfect...seriously - never any issues, even at college. So this is quite a blow to that ego - he is a great man, with much patience - so for my son to rile him up....it's not good. </p><p> </p><p>Psychs have worked with my son, and all are in agreement - including me who is anti-medications pro behavior modfication - that the anxiety he's feeling at school is coming into the home and dumped on 'safe person' which would be me. After he EXPLODES, he'll do the work with-o question, issue and such. But the emotional drain...too much. So...medications were discussed, thinking SSRI's to help with Anxiety - start small and see how things are after 60 days, along with possible enrollment in Martial Arts......was also suggested. Go to MD of psychiatric and she prescribes Abilify!!! WHAT?!?! it's not to be taken more than 6 weeks, and for 'anyone under 115lbs the metabolism for the smallest dosage is critical' per our pharmissit. Friend who is a child psychiatric advised me to stand up for myself with the MDPsych and let her know 'we don't want to bulldoze the house, just replace or repair the squeeky screendoor.' </p><p> </p><p>Abilify is for bi-polar "Which he doesn't have any symptoms of" or schizophrenia "Which he definitly doesn't have" but has anxiety "Which I clearly beleive the Abilify will help" tho it's not used at all for anxiety, and actually per Merck Manual - makes anxiety physical symptoms worse. UGH!!</p><p></p><p>Any suggestions - if we can get him calmed down, he can get and use the tools the psychiatric is attempting to teach him....any parents out there with previous expeirnce. No ADD/HD at all. Just the ODD and small motor delays. </p><p></p><p>Thanks!</p><p></p><p>Tori</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ToriB923, post: 205214, member: 6176"] My son is 11 and was finally diagnoised with ODD after two years of 'could be this...could be that...'. He does have a bi-lateral hearing loss 35dB and that has caused delays, along with a delay in small motor development, which causes MAJOR anxiety anytime he's to write as other children - one in particular who notifies others of some children's shortcomings...have made fun of him 'for writing like your in kindergarten'. His BioDad is long gone, has step-dad for last 9.5 yrs and two step-sisters 20/18. Situation at home has gone from kinda difficult to BAD. My son chooses not to work at school, and comes home with piles of homework because of that choice. So at home, we do the math - not too much of a fight, reading...not too much of a fight and then comes writing....there starts the escalation. He attempts to cause issue so he can get out of doing things - "if I do 'a' behavior, 'b' outcome gets me out of having to do the work'. Manipulation King if there ever was one. Well at home, I sit calmly 80% of the time while he freaks out and rants. If I don't react, he'll escalate to continue to get me to 'play into' whatever he's feeling or being. If I acknowledge, he continues to escalate. if I don't he continues to escalate or just shut down. Have had to physcially restrain him when the escalations go to that level - this occurs 1-3 x per week..... My husband is at his wits end - his children were perfect...seriously - never any issues, even at college. So this is quite a blow to that ego - he is a great man, with much patience - so for my son to rile him up....it's not good. Psychs have worked with my son, and all are in agreement - including me who is anti-medications pro behavior modfication - that the anxiety he's feeling at school is coming into the home and dumped on 'safe person' which would be me. After he EXPLODES, he'll do the work with-o question, issue and such. But the emotional drain...too much. So...medications were discussed, thinking SSRI's to help with Anxiety - start small and see how things are after 60 days, along with possible enrollment in Martial Arts......was also suggested. Go to MD of psychiatric and she prescribes Abilify!!! WHAT?!?! it's not to be taken more than 6 weeks, and for 'anyone under 115lbs the metabolism for the smallest dosage is critical' per our pharmissit. Friend who is a child psychiatric advised me to stand up for myself with the MDPsych and let her know 'we don't want to bulldoze the house, just replace or repair the squeeky screendoor.' Abilify is for bi-polar "Which he doesn't have any symptoms of" or schizophrenia "Which he definitly doesn't have" but has anxiety "Which I clearly beleive the Abilify will help" tho it's not used at all for anxiety, and actually per Merck Manual - makes anxiety physical symptoms worse. UGH!! Any suggestions - if we can get him calmed down, he can get and use the tools the psychiatric is attempting to teach him....any parents out there with previous expeirnce. No ADD/HD at all. Just the ODD and small motor delays. Thanks! Tori [/QUOTE]
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