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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 680808" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Personal experience is that in general, it means suppressing our needs in order to feel we belong - and if we have to do that, do we really belong?</p><p>Interesting existential question.</p><p> </p><p></p><p>Another excellent question. It's hard enough to fathom being parents in our shoes. How much harder must it be for our sons and daughters? If they don't even "belong" with us, do they belong anywhere? How do they find where they belong?</p><p> </p><p></p><p>The cost of belonging. I suppose there is always a cost. I just don't really see that cost in most people, who seem to simply "belong". Maybe they don't see it either, and yet it can still be there. A hidden cost.</p><p>I know that for my son, generally, the cost of belonging is far higher than any benefits that he can see and feel and measure. Which isn't totally a bad thing if you don't care whether you belong or not. But if you really want to belong, and can't afford the "cost" of belonging... then what?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 680808, member: 11791"] Personal experience is that in general, it means suppressing our needs in order to feel we belong - and if we have to do that, do we really belong? Interesting existential question. Another excellent question. It's hard enough to fathom being parents in our shoes. How much harder must it be for our sons and daughters? If they don't even "belong" with us, do they belong anywhere? How do they find where they belong? The cost of belonging. I suppose there is always a cost. I just don't really see that cost in most people, who seem to simply "belong". Maybe they don't see it either, and yet it can still be there. A hidden cost. I know that for my son, generally, the cost of belonging is far higher than any benefits that he can see and feel and measure. Which isn't totally a bad thing if you don't care whether you belong or not. But if you really want to belong, and can't afford the "cost" of belonging... then what? [/QUOTE]
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