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<blockquote data-quote="Lila256" data-source="post: 722851" data-attributes="member: 22431"><p>We really do need armor and swords! The level of incompetence just continues to amaze me.</p><p></p><p>Thank you so much for the link to the Parent Report. I think I will start working on that tomorrow to try to pull everything together. There has been so much over the last five years that it's hard to pull it all together. I'm pretty sure I have reams of paperwork about his care and well-being in my filing cabinet, but in my head they are all just chaos at this point, despite constantly trying to explain the situation to people. Your information will be helpful in navigating this. His father is so beyond overwhelmed that he is starting to shut down, so I'm trying to at least help with planning and structure to get through this leg of things.</p><p></p><p>I feel like I have been telling everyone in this county how dangerous this child is, at least since he tried to poison his father in February. Just all of his providers before then. His father and I are both disabled, though I am severely physically disabled and often have caregivers with me that he has also threatened and stolen from. It's just astounding how clueless everyone involved in this has been, despite repeating these things over and over. I have even told the police and APS that I'm a vulnerable adult and I fear for my life, and the response has consistently been a complete lack of understanding of the gravity of the situation. CPS has literally said multiple times, "We are not APS. We are CPS."</p><p></p><p>His father does now have an attorney. One was assigned by the court for this case. We've been emailing with her the last couple days. She hasn't answered any of our questions or really given us any guidance at all at this point, only wanting to know if his father's intention was to permanently have him in foster care. I'm hoping she's just really bad at communicating via email.</p><p></p><p>We are actually not sure what direction they are trying to go in terms of what happens with my stepson. His lawyer hasn't really communicated with us about any specifics at all, only asking the occasional question when we see him in court. The Guardian ad litem just emailed us the other day to introduce herself, but didn't ask any questions. We responded fairly generically, letting her know we were available to ask questions of and I introduced myself, but I didn't give her any information because I don't really know what part everyone is playing in all of this yet. I'm being guarded.</p><p></p><p>My stepson has been calling his dad's phone repetitively for a few days now because he is upset that his dad won't give him a neighbor kid's phone again because we are concerned that he will start harassing this kid because he is kind of obsessed with him and thinks that they are best friends when this kid had a really put up a barrier with him. Last night he started leaving threatening voicemails because his dad won't call him back right now because he is tired of the repetitive phone calls. "Dad, you better answer next time I call or I'll *growl*. You just better answer." (We aren't.)</p><p></p><p>We have a conference call with his lawyer, his biological mom and her lawyer, the Guardian ad litem and CPS on November 17, though we are not entirely clear on exactly what will be discussed. Then the dependency hearing is on December 5. We are actually not 100% clear that he is being charged with anything at this point. The court documentation doesn't specifically say so, and nobody else except his biological mom has mentioned anything. She doesn't exactly have a good history with the truth. We are hoping it is just to figure everything out? (But preparing for the worst regardless.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lila256, post: 722851, member: 22431"] We really do need armor and swords! The level of incompetence just continues to amaze me. Thank you so much for the link to the Parent Report. I think I will start working on that tomorrow to try to pull everything together. There has been so much over the last five years that it's hard to pull it all together. I'm pretty sure I have reams of paperwork about his care and well-being in my filing cabinet, but in my head they are all just chaos at this point, despite constantly trying to explain the situation to people. Your information will be helpful in navigating this. His father is so beyond overwhelmed that he is starting to shut down, so I'm trying to at least help with planning and structure to get through this leg of things. I feel like I have been telling everyone in this county how dangerous this child is, at least since he tried to poison his father in February. Just all of his providers before then. His father and I are both disabled, though I am severely physically disabled and often have caregivers with me that he has also threatened and stolen from. It's just astounding how clueless everyone involved in this has been, despite repeating these things over and over. I have even told the police and APS that I'm a vulnerable adult and I fear for my life, and the response has consistently been a complete lack of understanding of the gravity of the situation. CPS has literally said multiple times, "We are not APS. We are CPS." His father does now have an attorney. One was assigned by the court for this case. We've been emailing with her the last couple days. She hasn't answered any of our questions or really given us any guidance at all at this point, only wanting to know if his father's intention was to permanently have him in foster care. I'm hoping she's just really bad at communicating via email. We are actually not sure what direction they are trying to go in terms of what happens with my stepson. His lawyer hasn't really communicated with us about any specifics at all, only asking the occasional question when we see him in court. The Guardian ad litem just emailed us the other day to introduce herself, but didn't ask any questions. We responded fairly generically, letting her know we were available to ask questions of and I introduced myself, but I didn't give her any information because I don't really know what part everyone is playing in all of this yet. I'm being guarded. My stepson has been calling his dad's phone repetitively for a few days now because he is upset that his dad won't give him a neighbor kid's phone again because we are concerned that he will start harassing this kid because he is kind of obsessed with him and thinks that they are best friends when this kid had a really put up a barrier with him. Last night he started leaving threatening voicemails because his dad won't call him back right now because he is tired of the repetitive phone calls. "Dad, you better answer next time I call or I'll *growl*. You just better answer." (We aren't.) We have a conference call with his lawyer, his biological mom and her lawyer, the Guardian ad litem and CPS on November 17, though we are not entirely clear on exactly what will be discussed. Then the dependency hearing is on December 5. We are actually not 100% clear that he is being charged with anything at this point. The court documentation doesn't specifically say so, and nobody else except his biological mom has mentioned anything. She doesn't exactly have a good history with the truth. We are hoping it is just to figure everything out? (But preparing for the worst regardless.) [/QUOTE]
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